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...i'm holding back the tears, simply by reading this. :D
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I dont cry cuz i am very busy...! hopefully once i get out of my busy schedule, i will try and find some thing really screwed up to think about and shed some tears over it to bust this myth!
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i will see u there 
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I don’t see how, but I am sorry that my comment made you tick.
Crying is not the only manifestation of sorrow.
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I wish i could cry all those times when i wanted to....
Why men dont cry???
No, it has very little to do with hormones...
No, we are not emotionally stronger than women....
Yes, its social conditioning... have been taught since i was a little kid that no!! boys dont cry....
I HAVE CREID ON ONLY TWO OCCASIONS OF MY LIFE...
WHEN MY FATHER PASSED AWAY.... I wanted to cry so very much ... I did cry... but not a fraction of how much i wanted to... coz i had to console my mother and my sisters.... i could not cry.... coz i had to take their hand in my hand and reassure them that I am there for them now... i could not cry in front of them....
I remember i used to lock myself in the washroom and cry silently... my tears would not stop... but i couldnt cry much coz my swollen eyes would tell them that i had been crying... i was the man of the house now.... how could i cry....
and prababaly all my friends were too immature.... everybody was consoling me.... everybody told me to be brave and face the Will of Allah.... nobody asked me to cry... nobody offered his shoulders...
its been three years and still sometimes the pain is so fresh so severe so intense ..... i still burst into tears... but only when i am alone, in my bed, driving... sometimes i cannot cotrol it how hard i try speciallly after every Eid prayers...
Allah taala un ki maghfarat karay... Everybody please say Ameen...
THE SECOND TIME I CRIED WAS WHEN I WAS ON HAJJ... when i saw the khana-e-kaaba for the very first time... i am not sure how long i cried but it must have been more than 20-30 minutes... i was shaking and trembling and crying.... and wow... this time there were no strings attached ... there were no social conditioning.... i felt so light so releaved.... During my 40 days i really felt what life is.... i reallly talked with my Allah so many times.... i used to pray and talk with my Allah for such a long time.... used to cry all this while... i had mixed feelings of joy, fear, excitement etc.... i really cant explain that feeling.... during the Hajj I didnt realise it that way... but now i think that how easy it was for me to cry...
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i saw my bro's friend cry a few days ago 4 the 1st time in 4 years..it was wierd-i thinkhe tripped on my brother and he landed flat on his head then he rolled on his head something...that has GOT to hurt..hes like waaaaaaaaaaaaaay tougher than.me.......
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its one of cultural things again
emotionally we r similar but
men are raised not to cry in front of anyone…n i think holding oneself together when u need to cry is very difficult..for us , we are raised like that we cry at every available opportunity..so its a way of our catharsiss ..but for men it MUST be really difficult.i give props for it to them .:k:…i think men should fight for their rights to cry too as we see all feminist fighting for soem of their so called rights
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Fight? why fight? Just take guidance from our own religion. This macho-man (never showing tears) concept is not Islamic. We have learnt/imported this from Fuedal/Western and all those other cultures. Islam doesn’t discourage that. We have so much knowledge clearly appreciating those who can shed a tear, esp. for Allah. If it was not so, all the men who go to Saudia for Hujj/umra, would not be crying with tears.
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i want to cry:teary1: …
waiting for someone shoulder 
sirously people crying is healthy,woman don,t like man without emotions ofcourse we dont wana be like womans and spend whole day crying in our bed but crying in a ralationship can be good for your marriage.it is indoctrined in our mind by our society that we specially boys shouldn,t show any weakness when there are girl around us but truth is gals also don,t wana have boys like pussies otherways instead of giving our shoulder to gals to feel free to cry we will need their shoulder.