Re: Y DONT MEN CRY???
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psychologytoday.com/articles/pto-19980901-000013.html
A man bursts into tears after a tough day at the office and concernedco-workers rush to support him. A woman sobs in the same situation and her distress is barely acknowledged. Why such differing reactions? It all depends on what we don't expect, contends Purdue University psychologist Janice Kelly, Ph.D.
Her research suggests that when men and women display emotions inconsistent with the gender stereotypes we hold, we're apt to think that those feelings are more genuine and legitimate. Men are expected to show anger and stubbornness, women to express happiness, sadness, land fear. So a crying woman is just more of the same, but a sorrowful man is such a rarity that we believe he must be on the brink of disaster. Likewise, an angry man is common, but a livid woman is so rare we think that she must really be furious.
Even so, a woman's feelings still don't carry the same weight as a man's. Women typically are seen as "emotional" and their reactions viewed as overblown. "We tend to discount a large reaction in women," observes Kelly, while men are more likely to be admired for showing their true emotions. A man who panics in stressful conditions is seen as honest or vulnerable, for example, while a frightened woman might be regarded as overreacting.
The way we view men's and women's emotional expressions may have an impact on our romantic relationships. Emotions may be given more weight according to who expresses them, not how sincere they are. Thus, that heart-toheart conversation with your partner may not be an equal trade, after all, since in the currency of emotions, a woman's feelings are worth much less.