X-husband Dilemma

[Reha]

Re: X-husband Dilemma

@Sandninjer

Also thought it important to include that just because there’s a legality behind allowing a parent to see their child after a divorce, that doesn’t mean the legality was a just ruling. I had my jaw broken in high school by someone who hit me with brass knuckles from behind but they only got charged with assault as opposed to aggravated assault. Why? Because it couldn’t be proved. No one wanted to step up as a witness. So under the circumstances that the ex was so abusive but there wasn’t enough proof to deny him legal rights to see his child, then yes, I’d try my best to give him a tough time as well (assuming my wife and step child are in agreement).

Right. So what is the conclusion here?

We don’t like the ex-husband. He SHOULD not have permission to see his daughter because of his past issues and he might still be in that mindset.

But he still has rights. Maybe not just rights. But they’re still there…whether we like them or not.

Every situation is different and that is why people go to court, because otherwise every case would be cut and dry. If it were me and I had even an ounce of suspicion that the ex would be abusive, I’d have him cut off from the child. But she didn’t do that. We don’t know why…all we know is she didn’t She is still allowing him to see his child.

Who is the parent? Who is responsible for making sure her daughter is safe?

If someone is hurting you, they’re wrong to hurt you. But if you stand there and take it even though you can walk away…who’s really at fault then? I don’t understand how **useful **it is to put blame on someone who is obviously a bad person…and then do nothing about it.