X-husband Dilemma

[Muzna]

Re: X-husband Dilemma

@Zafra

There are various reasons for that intimidation, fear, blackmail or something else. Those are all plausible factors and can not be ruled out unless other information is provided. Ignoring them is simply leaning to a view point and not an objective analysis.

Plausible, perhaps. Reasonable? No.
If the woman is looking for advice and you suspect that any of the reasons you have listed above are cause for her allowing visitation rather than an official court order then I would suggest that you advise her to seek legal assistance. Seek a proper court order that can be enforced and will allow her to have recourse should he fail to follow.

Why is she allowing continued abuse by this man if she is in a new, safe and happy relationship? Why is she not seeking the protection of the law for both herself and her child?

@Zafra

Actually the interpretation is based on the notion that the only one offended by the act is myself. To date the only phrases to describe the man are a jerk and coo coo. Words 2 years old to describe people who tease them. Such high thresholds are truly amazing.

What’s the point of stating the obvious? If the guy was beating his wife then he’s obviously got problems. The point is that this happened 8 years ago. She removed herself or he left. From what you have shared, the abuse stopped for a long duration and she has re-established herself in another relationship. All we know is that he magically re-appeared in their lives and now has visitation rights with her blessing. We can only assume that he is not abusing anyone or why would a mother allow her child to be in danger?

If you are looking for someone to bash him for being a wife-beater…perhaps someone will oblige.

@Zafra

And yes you can stop a spouse from seeing the children if there is a history of abuse and neglect. A court will allow for such a situation. Divorce law 101. Its like saying the father beat the kids but hey the law says he can meet them again and beat them when he does.

I’m sure that you are correct that a court can prevent access if there is evidence of abuse. The fact that visitation is occurring here is testimony to at least 2 things:

• the mother is assured that there is no abuse happening else why would she allow her child to be exposed
• the court has found no abuse present and therefore has permitted unsupervised visitation to the father.

I haven’t taken DivorceLaw101 so I’m not as well versed but logic is not alien to me.

@Zafra

When a parent abandons a child the court has the right to limit the interaction of the abandoning parent for the benefits of the child. That even google can prove is correct.

If Google can prove that this is correct then why is your friend not seeking assistance from the law?
Very simple answer it seems.