X-husband Dilemma

[Muzna]

Re: X-husband Dilemma

@Zafra

So in other words you all would allow a man who abused the mother, beat her, used her for a green card, abandoned the mother and child when she was born in to the girls life because…?

because he is her father.
as long as he doesn’t abuse the child in any way then nobody has the right to keep him from her.
the mother needs to accept the reality that she and him made a child. that child is not hers alone and even with sole custody she cannot keep the child from its biological father.

@Zafra

I am still not getting why you would allow a wife beater in the same room as the woman he beat. Care to shed light on that?

while you accuse others of “selective” reading, you are guilty of it yourself.
there have been several posts in this thread that suggest meeting the father in a public place where no harm could come to the mother and the current husband’s demands would also be met.

@Zafra

You all do read the text right? The father stated he didn’t want to have anything to do with the kid for 8 years, as long as she didn’t ask for alimony he would never be in their lives. If that isn’t a dead beat dad I am not sure what is.

couple things about this…

• has she suddenly started asking for alimony? if not, then how did it come about that the father is back in their lives?
• you keep avoiding the question about the legalities surrounding the situation. has the father gone to court and sought access and therefore has an order allowing him visitation?
• you can well call him a dead beat dad as long as he fails to support his child and be involved in her life. as soon as he steps up, you can’t call him that anymore.

another thing that the mother needs to consider and I believe that Enterprise touched upon…
what will she do when the child is old enough to make her own decisions and ask why her stepfather made it so difficult to see real dad and why the mother didn’t do something about it?