X-husband Dilemma

[Reha]

Re: X-husband Dilemma

@Muzna

Zafra…you don’t know how wrong you are.
There are many, many Pakistani men that will marry a divorced woman and/or a divorced woman with a child and care for that child as if it were his own

Yeah, I cringe when I read things like “oh, he must be a god to marry a woman with a kid”. Because marrying someone with a child is like doing charity work you know?

@Zafra

So in other words you all would allow a man who abused the mother, beat her, used her for a green card, abandoned the mother and child when she was born in to the girls life because…?

I am still not getting why you would allow a wife beater in the same room as the woman he beat. Care to shed light on that?

You all do read the text right? The father stated he didn’t want to have anything to do with the kid for 8 years, as long as she didn’t ask for alimony he would never be in their lives. If that isn’t a dead beat dad I am not sure what is.

You suppose quite a lot. I feel like I am actually standing in a room with my back to the door trying to save myself from the wife beater. Its not about you being right or wrong here…it has nothing to do with you. The wife beater is coo-coo right? So I don’t understand why a mentally stable man would marry a woman with a kid thinking “oh no…she’ll probably never see her own father or even want to” or “court orders? joint custody? do what? what’s that mean?”. It doesn’t matter what the situation was ten years ago…what matters is how its being handled today. The child did not just appear out of the blue…she was always there. If you marry anyone with children, its with the understanding that at some point you WILL be dealing with the ex no matter how uncomfortable it is. You made the choice to marry…now deal with it. The ACTUAL facts here - not the supposed ones - are that she has a child with her ex husband. Her ex has every right to his child - whether mommy or new hubby like it or not. If they do not like it, they will have to go to court and fight for sole. If they cannot, they will have to just deal and find a workable situation.