X-husband Dilemma

[Mehnaz]

Re: X-husband Dilemma

@kk01

I have a friend who married to pakistani dude and she has daughter from previouse marriage. He is a good guy and good husband and father but he has one issue (typical desi problem) for visitation he wants step daughter’s father to pick her up from school and drop her off there , really don’t want him to come close to his home.
Her X says that he can see her when he gets time like sunday’s for 3 hours which mean he has to come pick her up from her home but her current husband won’t allow it.
my friend asked me for advise and I wasn’t sure what to tell her.

If the visitation is on Sundays, she can do a few things:

1. Continue with the arrangement as it is, her husband needs to suck it up. If he doesn’t, the ex can bring a motion and take her to court and she will be responsible for all costs. Does her husband want that?

2. Other option is to take the child herself to a place close to the biological father’s residence where he can pick her up, and she will be there to pick up the child herself. That way the mother is responsible for picking up/dropping off the child.

No court in the world will be ok with the school being a pick up/drop off location on a weekend.

As for the rest, there are a lot of assumptions in this thread. Wait for the court papers to be published here before coming to your own conclusions.

Just want to add that the courts like “status quo” - in other words, whatever custody arrangements are already in place are acceptable in the eyes of the court. If the mother changes that so that the father’s access is made more difficult or limits it altogether, she is changing the “status quo”. Not good.