So was discussing all desi things and marriage and men w/ a saheli today..
I said any man who will put himself or his mother/sister above his own wife and children (at the risk of hurting them) is a *ussy and doesn’t deserve to be called a man. Now any man who is fair and strong and treats his family right does deserve respect.. just someone who will mistreat his own wife and children in a bid for his own personal interests is really pathetic..
Now my friend, who was born and raised in Pakistan, is very in the desi scene, has seen aLOT more than I ever will, so she knows and hears and sees alot–said that if that’s the case then** 85 percent of male desis are wussies then because they are like that.
Go to life1, haven't you seen so many guys talking about how they had to break up cuz they didnt have the guts to talk to their families about the girl.
majority of paki males know well how to manage things between wife n their families.... more then 90 percent marriages are sucessfull and most of them live in a joint family system..
^-- having a successful marriage and living in a joint family system doesn't mean they are able to manage things fairly between the wife and family. Compromise, happens in above 80% of marriages. However i do believe that it is not always the guys fault.
i'll say **compromise **is the exact word for both men and women, because in some cases its the wife who mislead her marriage life n gets a divorce, i've seen lots of cases in my family in Pakistan, but men needs to treat his family equally both wife ,chidren and his own parents.
I said any man who will put himself or his mother/sister above his own wife and children (at the risk of hurting them) is a *ussy and doesn't deserve to be called a man. Now any man who is fair and strong and treats his family right does deserve respect.. just someone who will mistreat his own wife and children in a bid for his own personal interests is really pathetic..
Now my friend, who was born and raised in Pakistan, is very in the desi scene, has seen aLOT more than I ever will, so she knows and hears and sees alot--said that if that's the case then** 85 percent of male desis are wussies then because they are like that.**
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In my point of view marriage is a social contract, and one should not enter into that if he/she is not independent financially. how can we say that somebody will make independent judgment when he is living on parents money mostly
'ed by all the guys there 
