Diabetes (or “sugar” as they call it) in particular. Would your family be wary of the rishta and possibly reject it? Someone I know has it and he’s worried his girlfriend’s family might create an issue about it. I assured him diabetes is not a big deal and can be treated but his parents are afraid to take the rishta for the same reason! Either I am not on the same page or they are just over-thinking this. Thoughts?
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I would be ok with most things (esp if they** weren't *genetic) but being honest I would prob say no to someone with diabetes as like sooooooo many desis both my parents are diabetic (but under control) and it does bother me a lot that my future kids could possibly end up with the condition too, even tho with type 2 I know it also has a lot to do with diet as well.. I'm *really careful about my weight because of this.. Needles terrify me so God knows how I'd manage if I ended up with it :(
(Btw the above applies to an arranged match, if I loved him I guess those feelings could well override all that)..
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I agree, Deeba, esp. if I loved him b/c diabetes is easy to treat.The guy in question is EXTREMELY fit/gym rat/watches his diet type so it possibly couldn't get to Type 2 but I was surprised it would be an issue with some people. Although I totally understand your reasons.
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^ If he's pretty serious about his health and stuff, then rejecting him b/c of type 1 (or type 2) shouldn't be an issue and if the family makes it that....then they should either be educated about it or...realize the possibility that they may be using it as a scapegoat.
Diabetes shouldn't be a problem IF it's taken care of.
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diabetes is easily treatable in a way that it gets controlled. These days 2 out of 3 people we meet have a family history of diabetes or are themselves borderline. Diabetes, heart diseases these have become a modern epidemic.
i don't think one should reject a rishta just based on this because there is a feeble chance that anybody else as a potential wouldnt have anyone in the family with this disease.
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If he is really into the gym and looks after his health I guess type 2 shouldn't be much of a problem..
My brother got a rishta from the family of a girl who was an ex-anorexic and whilst he was willing to meet her my mum said 'no' straight away.. I wonder if most ppl would have done the same or given her more of a chance..
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Completely agree with you guys. The guy has Type 1 because like I mentioned he is in fantastic shape and all that which makes it more easy to treat, IMO. I dont understand why desis make "sugar" such a life-and-death type of an issue, esp. about Type 1.
But for those girls who're not married, what would your parents do if they heard potential-SIL has it?
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My brother got a rishta from the family of a girl who was an ex-anorexic and whilst he was willing to meet her my mum said 'no' straight away.. I wonder if most ppl would have done the same or given her more of a chance..
How did you guys know she was an ex-anorexic? Her parents mentioned it?
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It definitely is an issue with some people, maybe even most people. I'm guessing the risk of rejection is significant in an arranged marriage scenario (as in arranged set-ups, introductions). People may be turned down right off the bat. Have a family friend who has type 1 and apparently she's been rejected because of it for some time now. The earlier you develop it, the higher the risk of complications throughout life. This includes pregnancy. Maybe women with Type 1 are judged more harshly, especially when the female eligible pool is larger, and men have the option of shopping around and getting everything on their "list."
Considering the rate at which people can be picky about height, the size of your nose, complexion and so on in our society, diabetes is considered a big compromise in comparison.
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How did you guys know she was an ex-anorexic? Her parents mentioned it?
Yeah, her mum mentioned it herself, prob thought it was best to be upfront rather than us hear about it from other ppl..
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It depends upon what kind of disease it is. Someone in my immediate family has a wife with a blood disorder, and though no divorce happened, I still think it was disingenuous for the bride's family of not mentioning it, though our desi families are more concerned about marrying off their daughters than hurting their "chances" by telling the truth. Similarly, I know of a family in our distant relatives who had the bride divorced because she hid the fact that she broke her leg before marriage.
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Wow, that is depressing to read. Why would someone get rejected based off something they cant control AND can be controlled? 
Good idea, although did you guys eventually see how she is? As in, was she at a normal/healthy weight or still had a post-Anorexia body?
WHAT? Was the girl’s leg okay at the time of the rishta? Like, she didn’t limp or anything? And plus, they had married them off to begin with so there couldn’t be an obvious signs of damage, right? If so, why the heck would they get DIVORCED? Urgh.
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Oh and I should mention guy-in-question broke his hip from a sport injury last year...
Although he's fine after the reparative surgery and can walk/run/no limp etc but his parents are worried about that.
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Err..worrying about a broken hip? They're being unnecessarily paranoid if he is "normal" as far as his hip is concerned.
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**Diabetes is a condition which can be very well managed and the person can live as normal a life as possible. those who reject rishta on this ground are ignorant people who need to be educated about this condition.
i would never reject a rishta if i know the perspective girl is managing her condition well and is very knowledgeable about it. :)
***koi nazar meN ho to bataaiye :D*
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Yes, all four of them will have to pass a rigorous medical examination. In fact the short listed hopefuls will fight each other to death, then and only then will she be granted access to my kitchen. 
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Go. To. Hell, Noodle! 
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In most cases u cnt even tell if the other person has a disease esp in a rishta set-up where u meet the potential prospect 2-3 times only!
Diabetes is a serious thing but alot of people nowadays even youngsters r having it 
As for how me or my family wud react? well im sure they wl be concerned bt its overall package that counts.. u cnt get it perfect.
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Depends on thee guy I guess..
My friend married a guy who was diabetic and she ended up being a nurse to him. He wouldn't take responsibility for his own health and wouldn't do anything diet or exercise wise to improve his physical well-being. Instead, my friend had to constantly make sure he was eating the right things, exercising, taking his meds... etc etc. She said it was like looking after a kid.
Needless to say, that marriage didn't last for long..
Re: Would your family/you reject a rishta if the person had a health condition?
Depends on thee guy I guess..
My friend married a guy who was diabetic and she ended up being a nurse to him. He wouldn't take responsibility for his own health and wouldn't do anything diet or exercise wise to improve his physical well-being. Instead, my friend had to constantly make sure he was eating the right things, exercising, taking his meds... etc etc. She said it was like looking after a kid.
Needless to say, that marriage didn't last for long..
This..
I know plenty of ppl (esp elders) who don't look after themselves, eat whatever the hell they like then sit there and complain about how ill they are from the diabetes.. It really grates on me..