I wouldn't marry someone with kids for the fear of being unfair to them when I have my own.
Widower or divorcee with no kids? Yes, maybe. But not my first preference.
I don't see much difference between marrying a widower, divorcee or a guy who has been in a full-fledged pre-marital relationship (from a non-religious perspective).
Wha? No difference between a widower who lost his wife...a divorcee who was married...and someone in a full fledged pre-marital relationship?
I would not marry a widower whether he had children or not. I would be too paranoid that he was still in love with his deceased wife. I would marry a divorcee without children, infact thats what I did.
gosh so all those men and women with a child that are divorced would have to look at a life of solitude until they die, man that's depressing. kind of makes you want to not even get married just in case the spouse ends up being horrible and divorce was inevitable.
gosh so all those men and women with a child that are divorced would have to look at a life of solitude until they die, man that's depressing. kind of makes you want to not even get married just in case the spouse ends up being horrible and divorce was inevitable.
Oh well life is not perfect and many single parents find love again. I personally would not bother to re-marry untill my children were over 16.
There are some very kind women and men out there who will marry people with kids. I've met a few.
As for those who are reluctant to marry someone with kids, they are being honest about their limitations. It's not easy to raise another's child as your own especially in the presence of your own biological children. Choosing not to marry people with kids does not violate anyone's rights nor does it disrespect them or relegate them to the untouchable clan or something. It's just a choice. And it's ok to have one as long as it does not impinge on another's rights/respect.
One of our family friends was a divorcee with a child...a 5 year old son. Her family would always look for rishtay for her among the divorced or widowed men. She got married...to a guy who had never been married. He fell in love with her and her son.
I got a rishta from a guy who had a baby boy...his son was never an issue...there were compatibility issues between us.
For some reason, I dont see it as a big thing...having a child from a previous marriage. In fact, I would be curious to see how responsible and caring the person is towards their child. Says a lot about a person.