Would you women prefer?

[Vari]

Re: Would you women prefer?

1. your husband having an extramarital affiar with another woman, or
2. your husband getting nikahed to that other woman,

if these are the only choices are available?

it totally depends on husaband's actions :D
whatever he do i'll give him back ;)

[Nina85]

Re: Would you women prefer?

But then if you know about the affair, turn a blind eye and not encourage your husband to marry her, you may be questioned on the day of judgment for allowing your husband to commit zina.

Agreed, BUT I would never stand to live with a woman that my husband cheated on me with...because lets be honest, the second wife will not be a widow or divorcee who my husband feels needs taking care off....like most other cases, she will be a girl he had an affair with. So on top of him cheating on me, I have to ask him marry him and come into our household?? Listen, in all honesty, I hope I never face these options and if I do, I hope I would have the strenght to walk away. I know many people will disagree with me, saying that I dont belieev in the sanctity of marriage, but after sharing a life with someone, having children ect...I deserve more than someone who wants another woman. Ive read some of the other post, and I agree with many: PrincessJOJO has it right: why do we treat our men as animals?? They are more than that..they are capable, intelligent people who who should be treated as that and expected to act as such.
So, if I had to choose, it would be the affair.

[Niksik]

Re: Would you women prefer?

@kakaballi

1. your husband having an extramarital affiar with another woman, or
2. your husband getting nikahed to that other woman,

if these are the only choices are available?

How can these be the only choices available? When the man was given the right to 4 marriages, women were given the right to get a divorce. Do all women do that? No. Because women are raised as “weaklings” in our culture so usually they don’t get much support and in fact, get blamed if their husbands have affairs for perhaps not being hot enough for his fancy .

[princessjojo]

Re: Would you women prefer?

@kakaballi

^ Yes, pretty much, specially now with websites likes these popping upand it is becoming ever easier to indulge.

Good on you for recognizing PART of the problem. The other is lack of will/self control. Still, there are good men out there.

Good men with a strong will and sincerity in commitment.

Either way, I can’t live with someone I do not respect. And I definitely can’t respect someone who enters marriage with me with the understanding of monogamy but turns away. I won’t disrespect him or malign him because yes that is his right. I will just walk away.

[kakaballi]

Re: Would you women prefer?

How can these be the only choices available?

women were given the right to get a divorce. Do all women do that? No.

You answered your own question. Not all women exercise the right to divorce, given the social and cultural pressures.