would you tough it out?

Lifestyle Relationships
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hi. if you were engaged to a guy and you really like him but his sister is getting married to a family who doesnt have good realtion with your fam ily would you tough it out and deal with them or would you break the relationship?

this is of course assuming that there will be ana jana between the two families who s relationsip is not great.

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Re: would you tough it out?

depends how silly is the reason that your family doesn't talk to that guys family.. i say if you get a chance to patch up a relationship between families (no mattter who was wrong/right) than do it..

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Re: would you tough it out?

Would you really let go of an awesome guy (assuming he is all that) because his sister is marrying in a family your family doesnt get along with?

Are they going to be visiting you alot? live in the same city?

YOu gotta answer these questions yourself.

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Re: would you tough it out?

Well thats what I've never heard I must say :D

Engagement isn't a very strong tie, in comparison with marriage, but it isnt so weak as to break things up for a very silly reason ( it sound very silly trust me)

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bulbuli the reason u may say it is stupid is bcs u dont know whole situation. theres more to it. both my fiance and his sister live in pak and both my family and his sis soon to be in laws live in a nother country. her in laws are always trying to do our nuksaan in every way theyr jealous of us and dont like us.

my faince loves his sister a LoT. and sometimes he can get very emotional for them. im afraid that when my fiance gets here they might teach him bad stuff about my family and make him khilaaf us. weve already have had problems in our relationship which were mostly started by my doubts.

am i just being paranoid or is there some subtance to what im afraid will happen in the future?

the reason im worried is bcs this family aginst us has done thing slike this beofre. they run to go befreind any family firend we ake/have/contact with and htey try to turn other familys and people against us. for example the father of that family tried to befriend my dads coworkers and tell them not to do anywork for my dad. so these are dangerous people.my nands fil is always trying to runin my dad and he also hates my brother and so does his son.

but now my in laws are crazy for these people bcs they married there daughter and are bringing her 'bahar'.

should i be wrried?

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Re: would you tough it out?

i think you are trying to solve a problem that doesn't exist. Its like killing cancer without knowing if you have it.

Relax, and trust your fiance.. if he loves you then he won't get his mind corrupted.

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thank-you for objective advice. your words are very encouraging and positive..i really feel better after reading your advice in so many days..for so long i was so miserable in doubt s and paranoia..

thanks u so much..u should become a counselor or advocate on positive thinking! so beautifully put..im trying to kill cancer that i dont know i have and while doing that im destroying the rest of my body..it all makes sense now..:)

i need to stop killing the so called 'cancer'.. adn give my self and my fiance a break.