Would You Tell?

[CorruptAngel]

*Originally posted by MehnazQ: *
CA, I thought you judged a man by the company he keeps?

Seriously, I do not know what I would do if I were in your situation. I guess it’s easy to say it’s none of your business and turn a blind eye.

Have you tried talking to your friend about it? If she continues with this type of behaviour even when her husband is in the States living with her, then I know I would probably say nothing but distance myself from her and her husband while bringing down the friendship to a mere acquaintance type relationship … unless you will be o.k. with looking at her husband in the eye knowing all the insider scoop you do. Then again, if you become friends with the husband, I would probably feel compelled to tell him. I dunno … it’s a crappy situation.

who said I keep her company?

Well, I know her for more than 6 years and let’s say, it’s worthless to try to talk to her and try to bring her into right direction coz she aint gonna listen. She’s the kind that BoSS described and anyone can tell what kinda person she is by looking at ‘the way’ she acts in just about 30 minutes, maybe it’d take a bit more time for some. I didn’t even know about her extra-marital affairs until she herself told me two days before she was leaving for Pakistan! I said to her “but you’re married!!” and she said “yaar I didn’t know I would get into this…I just can’t explain how it happened” …

You’re right, I should bring this friendship down to acquintance…I already have but her husband thinks I’m her best friend as this is what she has told him mujhe phasa diya hai is ladki nay..so I guess I will have to meet him when he comes here but I’ve decided not to spend so much time with them and I wish I never have to look at him in his eyes…:o

[suroor_ca02]

i wud tell my friend :-)

[nykhansahib]

hmm... if the my friend was a female... i would have an affair with her so that she gets bak at her significant other's wrongdoings :D

[system]

hell yea i would tell, by remaining silent, your condoning it.

[Femme_Fatale]

Mehnaz I would rent it out for Gere in a heart beat forget the french actor!
I recieved a call from my friend yesterday who is going through hard times in her marital life which is almost over now! Her husband has been cheating on her for quite some time now. Turns out a family friend of hers knew about it all along and didn't tell her. After a whole year he confirms her suspicions! On top of that he tells her its all her fault. Had she not spent too much time away from her husband he would not have gotten involved with other women. The real story...while she was out both her husband and her familyfriend were entertaining their women at her house(the friend has been involved with a married woman for a number of years now!). I think that if this friend really had thought of the lady in this situation he would have told her long ago and asked her to pay more attention to their home and maybe even save it. But he didn't and now she is ready to file for a divorce. Sad.

[lastknightess]

I think I'd let the cheater know that I'm aware of what's going on and try and get the cheating partner to tell...

[PakistaniAbroad]

squeal at the slightest suspicion… my motto straight from St. Abrar is.. "jithay kurRee Munda vaikho rang ich Bhang Pao… "

[Munni]

I would tell my friend the hypothetical situation in the movie, and then proceed to ask them what they would do in such a situation.

If they say they would tell, I would probably tell them the next day, after they have had some thought about it.

I'd probably tell either way, because the person is a friend.

If they are an acquaintance I would have to think more about it. When I was in college I had an acquaintance whose fiancee was cheating on her. (He asked me out so I had first hand evidence.) I wanted to tell her anonymously, but the people around me suggested I dont. They all figured she knew what was going on, cause his flirting was so blatant. Had I known her well I probably would have told her, but since she was an acquaintance I did not. I also felt she knew.

[robby]

well whats the point of telling the gal her husband is cheating, what will u gain from revealing it and the gal when she finds out her husband is a cheat would only feel hurt, so the solution is when u see a guy cheating wid his wife get involved wid his wife while he is having fun with another woman. That way all will become equal and u can get into some steamy hanky panky and actually gain something out of it.

[AvgAmericanGirl]

Wrong Answer.

Not anyone elses business to tell another.

Especially when you know its gona hurt your friend. Your friend deserves to hear it from the significant other, not by rumor or gossip.