If you know their parent is sick with something short-term and they will under go surgery but iA’ will be fine. However, your partners parents have said that they don’t want their son/ daughter knowing right now, they’re waiting for the right time.
Would you keep such a secret?
Also, if you do decide to tell your partner about their parent’s sickness, would it be because, you feel guilty keeping a secret from him/her or because you want to make sure that he/she hears it from you first.
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If the parent doesnt want anyone to know you honour their wishes. You're not anything wrong as it's not your own personal issue its of someone else.
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It really depends on the relationship you have with your partner and with his parents.
But definitely evaluate what this right time is and why it is so.
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The relationship with partner is really good and have no secrets and with the parents is also good.
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*if u r told by ANYONE to keep the SECRET then u HAVE to keep the secret. it's a sacred trust that he/she has ENTRUSTED you with and you must guard it. Islamically, you have to otherwise you will be guilty of "AMAANAT meN KHIYAANAT" which is a HUGE SIN. *
you MUST guard the secret and NOT reveal to ANYONE including ur WIFE!...period!!!
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Respect the wishes of the parents, things might turn sour otherwise methinks
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I think I'd honor the parent's request. If the parent is sick and has to undergo surgery....although it's not something major...it's still stressful and I wouldn't want to increase the anxiety that's already there. Stress can affect health. It's their news...and if they would feel more comfortable sharing it at a later time.....then it seems wrong to meddle with that. And when they get to sharing the news with your partner....I doubt that they'd tell your spouse that you knew about the news before hand...(hopefully they wouldn't share that)...and that way it won't be offensive to your spouse.
Also, as KKF (above) said....Islamically if someone is putting their trust in you...then you should try to keep it. It's not like the parents plan to NEVER tell their son/daugther......it will be shared at a later point.
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*if u r told by ANYONE to keep the SECRET then u HAVE to keep the secret. it's a sacred trust that he/she has ENTRUSTED you with and you must guard it. Islamically, you have to otherwise you will be guilty of "AMAANAT meN KHIYAANAT" which is a HUGE SIN. *
you MUST guard the secret and NOT reveal to ANYONE including ur WIFE!...period!!!
WOW WOW WOW..... BEAUTIFUL!!!
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if u r told by ANYONE to keep the SECRET then u HAVE to keep the secret. it's a sacred trust that he/she has ENTRUSTED you with and you must guard it. Islamically, you have to otherwise you will be guilty of "AMAANAT meN KHIYAANAT" which is a HUGE SIN. you MUST guard the secret and NOT reveal to ANYONE including ur WIFE!...period!!!
Aap sahie bol rahay hain, but I feel that there are more chances one will pray for one whose in such situation. Don't you think so KKF? Aik banda dua be to ker sakta haina for his health improvement. Mai jaanti hoon ke its a matter of trust and parents ko zayada pareshani hoti hai, but again I feel that maa baap ki dua are very precious to one. One of my aunt she has a cancer for about a very long time and she hasn't yet told her mother at the fact that her mother will become tensed and feel worried about her daughter. But then again I dunno.
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If you know their parent is sick with something short-term and they will under go surgery but iA' will be fine. However, your partners parents have said that they don't want their son/ daughter knowing right now, they're waiting for the right time.
Would you keep such a secret?
Also, if you do decide to tell your partner about their parent's sickness, would it be because, you feel guilty keeping a secret from him/her or because you want to make sure that he/she hears it from you first.
yes i would keep it as a secret.
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WOW WOW WOW..... BEAUTIFUL!!!
thank you Sehar :)
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Aap sahie bol rahay hain, but I feel that there are more chances one will pray for one whose in such situation. Don't you think so KKF? Aik banda dua be to ker sakta haina for his health improvement. Mai jaanti hoon ke its a matter of trust and parents ko zayada pareshani hoti hai, but again I feel that maa baap ki dua are very precious to one. One of my aunt she has a cancer for about a very long time and she hasn't yet told her mother at the fact that her mother will become tensed and feel worried about her daughter. But then again I dunno.
*du'aa to kar saktaa hai aur is meN kia shak hai magar Khusar saaHab ne apne daamaad saaHab ko yeh raaz bataayaa aur man'a bhii farmaayaa kisii aur ko bataane ke liye, Khaas kar unkii apnii beTii ko...to, ab yeh raaz amaanat kii soorat iKhtiyaar kar gayaa hai aur yeh raaz kisii aur ko bataanaa amaanat meN Khiyaanat ke baraabar ho jaayegaa. yeh to aap bhii jaantii hii hoNgii k amaanat meN Khiyaanat karna gunaah-e-kabeera hai. is liye, is amaanat/raaz ko raaz rakhnaa Islaamii farz ban gayaa hai. *
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I probably wouldn't tell.
But what if by chance the patient died, your husband/wife might hold it against you for not telling them. They might not have been able to say the last bye
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I will definately tell. Because no matter how small of an operation it may be, it still comes with the risks so i wouldnt hold back the info from my spouse.
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I would tell. It's his parents after all, and if I was in his feet, I would want the same happen to me. I know where parents are coming from, they don't want the kids to worry blah blah, but an operation is an operation, and health and fitness of someone who has raised one from the moment of conception is very important and dear to a child. So yeah, I would tell no matter what.
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I too would honour his parents' wishes, they know them better. May Allah swt grant whoever is ill shif'fah.