After you’re married, would you disclose all of your deep dark secrets to your partner or would you hide them from them? What types of secrets wouldn’t you tell your partner?
Here are a few examples:
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Got 3 secrets (can't remember two of them) which I am not allowed to tell anybody. They aren't about me but about others. Made a promise. I will take them to my grave. Wifey can ***** as much as she wants. I am not budging.
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Secrets that are no longer valid or wont effect her anymore, I probably wont share them with her.
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@ CM: ^ They're supposed to be secrets about you, not someone else.
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Except #3 i wl tell him the rest!
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No, I wouldn't share all my secrets. I think some things are better kept to yourself for various reasons.
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Oh then I am an open book. If i am marrying her why do i need to hide stuff?
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I wouldnt share all secrets. Esp the ones which aren't valid and which don't matter anymore I won't share with him.
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once shared, its not secrete any more....
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now why would i want to do that ...
she will totally and completely crush me ... ...
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A secret revealed is not a secret any more. The last time I checked a secret is supposed to be taken to grave. If you tell anybody, it is not a secret anymore . Or is it. 
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I don't see a reason to keep secrets from your partner.
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:k:
i wont tell.
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Sharing ALL secrets is a horrible idea. Actually, before sharing ANY "secret"....a person really needs to ask themselves if that "sharing" can come back to haunt them. You can't even imagine how many people I know regret sharing their "secrets" with their spouse....b/c when they went to divorce court...it came back to haunt them big time. This would REALLY suck for you if you spouse's laywer can somehow use that secret to effect child custody (and don't fool yourself into thinking that this doesn't happen).
Yes....everyone likes to think they'll be married forever...and that their amazing husband/wife will never betray them blah blah blah. So unless you have a God given ability that tells you what the future holds.....be careful about what you choose to share. Your marriage is only stable as long as your and your spouse CHOOSE to keep it stable.
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Depends on the secret, I'm a super private person but I really open up in front of my SO. Secrets of other people, I would never share or maybe I would if I knew there was no connection or them ever running into each other or him knowing that person.
Other than that, stuff like plastic surgery, were engaged to be married to someone else or hate his/her mom's cooking is NOT that serious. C'mon!
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no, certain things i would never tell!
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One should not have so many skeletons in the closet. 
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Depends on the secret, I'm a super private person but I really open up in front of my SO. Secrets of other people, I would never share or maybe I would if I knew there was no connection or them ever running into each other or him knowing that person.
Other than that, stuff like plastic surgery, were engaged to be married to someone else or hate his/her mom's cooking is NOT that serious. C'mon!
Agree.. I happily have and would tell him that stuff..
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Sharing ALL secrets is a horrible idea. Actually, before sharing ANY "secret"....a person really needs to ask themselves if that "sharing" can come back to haunt them. You can't even imagine how many people I know regret sharing their "secrets" with their spouse....b/c when they went to divorce court...it came back to haunt them big time. This would REALLY suck for you if you spouse's laywer can somehow use that secret to effect child custody (and don't fool yourself into thinking that this doesn't happen).
Yes....everyone likes to think they'll be married forever...and that their amazing husband/wife will never betray them blah blah blah. So unless you have a God given ability that tells you what the future holds.....be careful about what you choose to share. Your marriage is only stable as long as your and your spouse CHOOSE to keep it stable.
Paheli, I know your post is very rational but than no one would ever be able to experience a 100% comfort level with their spouse. And if you do something big (may it be good or bad) keeping it from your spouse will also keep a distance in the relationship. Just my pov.
I'd rather put my 200% in a marriage even if in the future in divorce he screws me over than me live with secrets and have a "successful" marriage.
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Paheli, I know your post is very rational but than no one would ever be able to experience a 100% comfort level with their spouse. And if you do something big (may it be good or bad) keeping it from your spouse will also keep a distance in the relationship. Just my pov.
I'd rather put my 200% in a marriage even if in the future in divorce he screws me over than me live with secrets and have a "successful" marriage.
How many of us experience 100% true comfort with our spouses? Let's take some scenarios which are fairly common in marriages:
Scenario 1: From the time she gets engaged, girl thinks her MIL is a bit*h. For whatever reason....even after marriage....wife never develops any fond feelings towards her MIL and just really hates her. Is it a good idea for her to tell her husband that she thinks his mother is a *****? How many women (especially desi) would be comfortable sharing this type of feeling with their husband?
Scenario 2: Wife gets pregnant....during pregnancy gains quite a bit of weight....gets really bad stretch marks etc. Husband doesn't find her sexually attractive anymore. How many of us would encourage the husband to be 100% honest with his wife and tell her exactly how he feels?
Scenario 3: Wife used to have a boyfriend in college. Years later, she gets married and by all measures, has a good marraige and is in love with her husband. BUT....her ex-boyfriend was better in bed compared to her husband. Even though she's very much in love with her husband and wants to spend the rest of her life with him.....should she really be honest with her husband and share her "comparison"?
Scenario 4: Husband has a new co-worker....a super HOT single woman. He will never cheat on his wife and loves her dearly....but as a man, he's physically attracted to his new co-worker. Is there any reason for him to share this with his wife? Or should he watch what he says regarding this new co-worker?
I could go on and on. I imagine MOST people would say in situations like above.....its better to practice discretion and not be so honest. Personally, I don't see keeping certain "secrets" to yourself any better than all the hypothetical situations I mentioned above....where a spouse isn't 100% forthcoming. Now whether a spouse "edits" their words b/c they don't want to hurt their partner....OR its because they don't want their words to be used against them in the future..........the end result is the same. Personally, I have never come across a couple who's truly 100% honest about their actions/thoughts/feelings with their spouse.