Would you tell your friends wife that he's been cheating on her?

[zobia]

Re: Would you tell your friends wife that he's been cheating on her?

nope, i wouldn't tell.

[korn666]

Re: Would you tell your friends wife that he's been cheating on her?

I would not interfere in such a situation

[Holy_Lota]

Re: Would you tell your friends wife that he's been cheating on her?

I still wonder how did you play with him? As you have already mentioned, how did you rip him off??

Also, how do you know his wife? Friend, family friend, family???

[Sara516]

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@Applejuice

Why question it when he’s not even cheating at the moment. Anyone can cheat/lie in future, so does it mean you are going to start telling their spouses right now?

Actually I’d tell that girl’s family that she’d been having a affair with married guy and using him for her own benefits.

Look at this statement: “she used his contacts for a better job and ripped him off in the process, **when he realized he was played **he decided to pray for forgiveness”

Needless to say how cruel this looks. It appears she’s smart and luvs to play with the guyz . Why is she all of a sudden wanting to tell his wife when she herself was a big part of the whole plan. On the other hand if the guy is asking forgiveness, atleast he’s doing the right thing. If he’s done mistake earlier, right now he’s back on the right track. So telling his wife would be a great attempt to ruin his home. Does she want to ruin it just cuz now there are chances that they may be living happily???

Who says women cant be evil??

Wait so in this case, its the girl whom he was having an affair with that wants to tell the wife her man’s a cheater?

That’s all kindsa [bad woman] right there.

[GoriLady]

Re: Would you tell your friends wife that he's been cheating on her?

How do you know does not know ? If she does not know why ruin it for her. What is she loosing because of promiscuity of this jerk ? At least she has peace of mind , why give her stress. And if she knows you are not going to do any service to her cause.

I disagree- what she is losing is potentially her health. What if he gives her an STD???

On the other hand, people don't like to hear anything negative said about their SO. She might shoot the messenger and be really angry at you. He'll deny it and if she believes him, she'll hate you and think you're evil yourself. One way to avoid this situation but still tell her would be to send her an anonymous letter. Before you do that though, pray about it. God will guide you.

[glambition]

Re: Would you tell your friends wife that he's been cheating on her?

Err ok there seems to be a super huge misunderstanding! i am only the friend, the confidante, im not THAT girl astaghfirullah. Please read the original post carefully do not jump to such RIDICULOUS conclusions.

[glambition]

Re: Would you tell your friends wife that he's been cheating on her?

I disagree- what she is losing is potentially her health. What if he gives her an STD???

On the other hand, people don't like to hear anything negative said about their SO. She might shoot the messenger and be really angry at you. He'll deny it and if she believes him, she'll hate you and think you're evil yourself. One way to avoid this situation but still tell her would be to send her an anonymous letter. Before you do that though, pray about it. God will guide you.

Its not just her wrath ill encounter, it'll be my friend's too, and then the families will get involved. I dont know if i want to cause such trauma. Im thinking of not saying anything now, maybe there is no next time and everythings good in the future..

[partyslims]

Re: Would you tell your friends wife that he's been cheating on her?

Err ok there seems to be a super huge misunderstanding! i am only the friend, the confidante, im not THAT girl astaghfirullah. Please read the original post carefully do not jump to such RIDICULOUS conclusions.

Welcome to desiville jee.

[Azad]

Re: Would you tell your friends wife that he's been cheating on her?

No

[Sara516]

Re: Would you tell your friends wife that he's been cheating on her?

Err ok there seems to be a super huge misunderstanding! i am only the friend, the confidante, im not THAT girl astaghfirullah. Please read the original post carefully do not jump to such RIDICULOUS conclusions.

Ok I am sorry, I know you were not THAT girl, but AppleJuice presented a situation that's also kinda common, where the girl who is cheating decides to tell the wife about her husband. Well it seems to be common amongst celebrities when these women come out and are proud of the man they cheated with.

[Holy_Lota]

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@Sara516

, where the girl who is cheating decides to tell the wife about her husband. Well it seems to be common amongst celebrities when these women come out and are proud of the man they cheated with.

And also she decides to let the wife (or others) know when she cannot get enough advantage of him what she'd been taking earlier.. So the guy becomes a super bad guy and that innocent girl becomes the victim for the entire world..

[Holy_Lota]

Re: Would you tell your friends wife that he's been cheating on her?

Err ok there seems to be a super huge misunderstanding! i am only the friend, the confidante, im not THAT girl astaghfirullah. Please read the original post carefully do not jump to such RIDICULOUS conclusions.

You still didnt tell , how you or that girl ripped him off??? What lead to the thinking that now you should tell the wife?

[glambition]

Re: Would you tell your friends wife that he's been cheating on her?

Welcome to desiville jee.

haha yeah quite an eye opener this one!

[glambition]

Re: Would you tell your friends wife that he's been cheating on her?

@Sara516

Ok I am sorry, I know you were not THAT girl, but AppleJuice presented a situation that's also kinda common, where the girl who is cheating decides to tell the wife about her husband. Well it seems to be common amongst celebrities when these women come out and are proud of the man they cheated with.

Its not a problem, just got me all wide awake in my roza lol. In this case, the girl is an upcoming celebrity, hasnt made it too far though, and my friend isnt a big deal either so i guess she realized that to get further up on the success ladder she'd need a bigger fish, hence ditched the lil fish,as far as i know she hasnt threatened or anything, so that off his radar.

[Nightwalkr]

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@glambition

Assalamu alaikum everyone, this is my first post here, despite the fact that i'v been a silent viewer since a long, long while but theres this dilemma im facing thats bothering me. Its about a certain guy friend of mine, but its easier for me to write it as a hypothetical situation, so here goes:

If you found out that a guy is cheating on his wife (lets say they've been engaged since a long time and just married now) would you tell her? There is not even a shadow of doubt about the cheating episodes (yes there were many) as they have been narrated by the guy himself but he says she has no idea, and that he's changed now. Is not telling her wrong? How would you judge somebody who is aware of this but doesnt disclose it to the girl? Is it ok for me to mind my business in this case? The guy is a nice person in general, is it my place to say anything at all?

P.s- I know how sarcastic u'all get in these threads, but its my first post so go easy on me perhaps? =p

well, you have pretty much answered your own question.

That being said. It depends what how well the bond is. Remember if a 3rd person comes in to 2 people's life and talk bad behind one's back it could ruin the entire life for both of them....and feeling guilty for that is also a bad feeling. imo.

[glambition]

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You still didnt tell , how you or that girl ripped him off??? What lead to the thinking that now you should tell the wife?

1. Applejuice hear me out once and for all: If you say YOU again ill beat the crap out of you :)

2. SHE used to get him to take her shopping etc, eating out to fancy places, they even went on vacations out of the country on the pretext of work.

3. I am his childhood friend, he is a nice guy, very respectful family etc. its just this one side of him very few people know about. When he told me initially, i told him to stop obviously, and to tell his wife, and he said he would. Hopefully that answers your questions.

p.s- is there a way for me to reply with quotes to everybody in ONE message?

[Sara516]

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^ Yes, u see the little "+ on the bottom of your post...next to edit post/reply/reply with quote etc... click on the last one and when you want to reply, click on "reply with quote"

[glambition]

Re: Would you tell your friends wife that he's been cheating on her?

thanks a lot Sara516 :)

[Deeba1234]

Re: Would you tell your friends wife that he's been cheating on her?

Yes I would but I'd make sure I had proof to back up what I'd say so she doesn't turn around and say 'ur just jealous/bitter' etc.

Difficult situation but the reason I wouldn't keep my mouth shut is because if my future husband was cheating on me and my friends knew about it I'd want them to tell me. Lies and cover-ups would be too much to handle from ppl I thought I could trust.

[PyariCgudia]

Re: Would you tell your friends wife that he's been cheating on her?

Nah I wouldn't. None of my business. Considering I have covered for a friend who was dating one girl but macing on another, I would say I wouldn't tell the girl even in a marriage situation.

And with that, I lose all respect for you.