Since I was kid I had different questions due to which my mom use to Daant me and chapair me. I always use to think I didn’t do any wrong why this daant and chapair.
I got answer of my questions that I wasn’t wrong but I still get anger from ppl around me I’m still confused. I do whatever I think is right and I don’t care about ppl around me.
No I have another confusion Quran says sub say talluqaat qaaim rakho. Quran yay bhi kahta hai hamaisha such bolo.
Now I realy need advice from all of you where I’m wrong and what I have to do.
Please don’t derail this and don’t do anything wrong.
Mera question hai.
Main buchchpuns say hamaisha such bolnay pay ammi say maar par’ti thi.
Koi mujhay kuch dikhaay aur poochay kaisa laga to mujhay agar achcha naheen lagay to naheen kahna chahyay kay us ka dil rakhnay kay liaay jhoot bol dena chahyay haan bohat achcha hai aur khud ko jhoot bol kar gunahgar kar lena chahyay?
Jawab to quran say mujhay mil chuka hai such bolna chahyay.
Per quran yay bhi to kahta hai sub say talluqat rakho. Such bolnay pay to bura lagta hai logon ko aur talluqat kharab hotain hain aisi soorat main kia karna chahyay? Khamoshi ya oar kuch.
Such bolnay say dushman har jagah bohat ho jaatay hain dost koi naheen rehta.
Insaan maan baap aur bahan bhi ko to chor naheen sakta. Such bolay bina bhi rah naheen sakta aisi soorat main kia karna chahyay?
Re: Would you tell the truth straight forward or what.
Speak the truth when it is you who could be hurt
Speak the lie when you cover for the sins of your brother and sister
Cover the truth when the harm of it out weighs the benefit
Speak truth in normal situations
Never spread fitnah so hide your own sins
Spread the news of evil only when there is potential harm to society from that evil so they can be aware of it.
The general ruling is tell the truth, but this always has a context.
Speak the truth when it is you who could be hurt
Speak the lie when you cover for the sins of your brother and sister
Cover the truth when the harm of it out weighs the benefit
Speak truth in normal situations
Never spread fitnah so hide your own sins
Spread the news of evil only when there is potential harm to society from that evil so they can be aware of it.
The general ruling is tell the truth, but this always has a context.
great.
Wouldn't it make me sinful when I'll lie for no matter what.
Jaisa k quran main parha hai k koi musalman gunah ya ghalat karay to ussay hath say ya zuban say roko naheen to dil main bura samjho jo imaan ka akhri darja hai.
Kia apnay bhai bahan, maan baap ya close relative ko gunah say kum uz kum aik baar bhi naheen rokna chahyay.
Roknay say bura lugta hai subko agar wo ghalat kar rahay hon to dushman bun jaatay hain. Aisi soorat main kia karna chahyay aik baar bhi mana na karain rokain naheen. Chup chaap tamshai bun kar gunah hotay daikhtay rahain?
Re: Would you tell the truth straight forward or what.
^ behan Gr8Heera
Han apne pyaron ko rokna to chahye, lekin rukhe dil se nahien. Jitnee hikmat se hum nasiyat uney den sakhen to denahee chahya.
And … wo baat jo aapne likhee hai … that is in hadith not in the Qur’an.
If you remember the story of Hussan(RA) and Hussain(RA) the prophet Muhammad(SAW)'s grandsons, they saw an old man doing his wudu incorrectly. Now they had the same problem, they needed to correct the old mans mistake but they didn’t want the old man to suffer any humiliation. So they could not even tell any older person. They had a plan …
Hussan(RA) and Hussain(RA) approached the old man and pretended to be arguing, they asked the old man to be judge for them as Hussan(RA) was saying that Hussain(RA)'s wudu was incorrect but Hussain(RA) was saying that Hussain(RA)'s wudu was incorrect.
First Hussan(RA) did wudu and he did it perfectly the old man watched, then Hussain(RA) did the wudu and did it perfectly the old man realised that it was himself who was in error and he said “you are both doing it perfectly … but it was I who was wrong”
In this story it is clear that we should tell people about wrong things, but with some people we need to exercise a bit more wisdom than other people.
Thanks for correcting that is in hadees. I just remmeber what the point is and where in quran or hadith I can’t remember.
Main bhi I don’t know hikmat. I try to say only once with lots of love and politeness or by my action but still ppl get mad at me. I don’t know what hikmat I could use.
Now what I did I stop talking to those ppl just salam dua talk to them politely and give mashwara what is good for them if they discuss any problem. Don’t talk to the matter that is not good or very shameful according to Islam.
My problem is I can’t see when someone is doing wrong main aik dafa zaroor bol parti hoon yay ghalat hai aisa na karo islam main mana hai aur kuch daleelain bhi deti hoon. Yay bhi naheen karti kay jis par khud amal na karoon us ko karnay kahti hoon.
Problem is I stop talking or saying anything about those stuffs but they all the time tonting me bilawajah kay qusoorwar banatay hain mujhay. What I do don’t say anything just iqnore. Now its getting on my never. Aik bayhaya insaan ulta mujhay bura bhala kahay ub main aisa kia karoon ya kia kahoon jis way wo tonting karna chor day aur us mauzoon pay kuch na kahay.
How I can deal with this. Wo kia tareeqay ikhtiar karoon ya kis tarha baat karoon kay unko samajh aa jaay?
Re: Would you tell the truth straight forward or what.
Sab se pahle kissee ko samjhana dusron ke saamne wali cheez nahein hai ... so make sure whoever you give advice to be alone or take to one side.
Next be confident but not angry with your advice
If they are too ignorant to listen then don't worry your obligation has been completed ... Hum siraf batta sakhte hein agar wo na samaj paein to un ke liye dua manglo aur wahan se door ho jao.
Akhri cheez ye ke don't worry if someone taunts you just take it with sabr because remember Muhammad (SAW) was also taunted and he was even beaten with stones in Taif but he kept his patience. Just tell people once if they listen it is good for them they don't listen then they will take it up with Allah(SWT) ... Wo ye to nahein keh sakenge ke Heera ne humme nahein battaya.
