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This GOD fearing guy married a woman and didn’t touch her to get revenge from you.
I just learned a new definition of GOD fearing. 
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so the sole purpose of marryign a woman is to ‘touch her’ ? not companionship not anything else ? .. ok right
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f thats the case anyone would just marry anyone .. and yeah he is god fearing .. he has temptations all aorund him and still he lowers his gaze in front of pretty girls .. and yeah do you know how bad he feels for what he done ? if he was not god fearing he would not be feeling so guilty and bad and so worried for what he has done to me .. he would not be so wrorried about me and how im feeling but he is .. because hes a good person
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so the sole purpose of marryign a woman is to 'touch her' ? not companionship not anything else ? .. ok right
You just told us the sole purpose or marrying a woman is to take revenge from the one he loved.
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You just told us the sole purpose or marrying a woman is to take revenge from the one he loved.
maybe at that time he thoguht she can keep him happy but obviousy she did not.
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Yep…the divorcee and her family…the heck with them. The guy’s actions has zero effect on them. It’s a good thing the guy is staying 100% focused on YOU as you go through this traumatic event. :k:
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This God fearing guy only lower his gaze when see a "pretty girl".
This God fearing guy is divorcing his wife.
This God fearing guy has never intimate with his wife.
Ice Baby... If you have made your mind, why are wasting time in seeking opinion. While you are not taking any sensible stance from our valuable members.
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^She wants one....just one person...to give their aashirwaad to her. Those of us that are telling her to go marry him are doing so unwillingly....she wants to see a more heartfelt approval...if even from one member. U should do the honors for us Mahool.
Ice Baby, you already got ur mom on your side. The guy's parents are now open to marrying their son to you. The only one whose approval u need to get now is ur dad's.....so do all this convincing with him instead...not us. He'll be the who will either partly or fully fund your wedding to whomever guy u end up marrying. So exert that energy into convincing him ... Not us.
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^She wants one....just one person...to give their aashirwaad to her. Those of us that are telling her to go marry him are doing so unwillingly....she wants to see a more heartfelt approval...if even from one member. U should do the honors for us Mahool.
Ice Baby, you already got ur mom on your side. The guy's parents are now open to marrying their son to you. The only one whose approval u need to get now is ur dad's.....so do all this convincing with him instead...not us. He'll be the who will either partly or fully fund your wedding to whomever guy u end up marrying. So exert that energy into convincing him ... Not us.
wait did I miss something in this saga? The parents are on board? whatttt
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I wouldn't love anyone who had the nerve to sleep with anyone other than their spouse. That's ridiculous. If you can't wait to get married then you do not deserve real love.
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Look OP..all i know is...if he married a girl then had sex with her. Even if he didn't love her..it is perfectly alright and halal. Are you telling me..sleeping in same bed..he didn't have sex with her. So he was in love with "other girl" so much that...he didn't sleep with his wife even once. That is complete bs.
Please do not take it personally..but leave him alone. There is something called loyalty to the one you're nikkahed to. If he divorces her because he didn't "love her"..he should have thought about it before. And if he goes ahead divorces her and then marry this "other girl"..then he can do whatever he wants. But please..advise him to respect the sanctity of marriage and nikkah no matter what.
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Well... if you really want an honest opinion then leave him... there are so many negatives and doubts. Im sure he would said all the nice things to his ex wife... and if he is so God fearing then he wouldn't dare spoiling life of an innocent girl... its a matter of life and i guess instead of being emotional you must be rational and do an unbiased analysis.... if a guy can spoil a life someone just take revenge from you then trust me he is capable of doing all the bad things you can imagine. Im a guy and if i wouldn't suggest my sister to even think about him.... there are a lot of doubts and questions. .. are you and his ex wife in same city?? Why dont you try to find her and ask her what happened.... may be he is just after mayerial gains which he couldn't get from his exwife... think what he could be looking for... again dont be emotional and dont out your life at stake.... do full investigation and dont take things on face value... due to what he did... so if you think he truly means what he said then at least do some effort to verify and then decide... best try to find that girl and aak her point of view... if that girl accuse him but cant provide you an evidence then you can give him benefit of doubt but do try
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real question is would you marry the guy if he had sex with another girl and she told you he is lousy at it. :\
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um shes wasnt a virgin entering into the marriage .. she was already married before .. this is her second marriage and his first . and i have no evidence that he slept with her. what i heard was that he didnt go near her.
this sounds like a very confusing bollywood love story. you are better off just staying clear from confusing situations like this, take a deep breath and look elsewhere. this 'love' stuff is BS. people need to live in the real world. don't find someone in a messed up situation like this, will bring too much hassle to your life. find a unattached boy and set up a life with him.
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um shes wasnt a virgin entering into the marriage .. she was already married before .. this is her second marriage and his first . and i have no evidence that he slept with her. what i heard was that he didnt go near her.
how do you know if she is a virgin or not? just how this guy was married, and didn't get intimate with this girl (aka, his wife), maybe she didn't get intimate with her first husband too.
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how do you know if she is a virgin or not? just how this guy was married, and didn't get intimate with this girl (aka, his wife), maybe she didn't get intimate with her first husband too.
And may his ex wife had left him coz in real he is not worthy ... coz if someone can go to this extent to take revenge he can do anything and may be hia ex wife left him after knowing his intentions... again... if you wana consider him then investigate
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Um five years ago...I would have said DEFINITELY NO...the thought just made me feel insecure, like the guy would compare me, and that it was unfair to me, because he got to 'play' and I didn't. But now I think that if a guy is around 30, it is almost unhealthy for him not to have been in a relationship ever...after all, he has been physically mature for more than half his life. I also strongly believe that in men (more than in women), that if they don't have their sex drive 'satisfied', they tend to seek unhealthy outlets, whether it is computer addictions, same-sex relationships (when they are not even gay), and sometimes even more gross things like harassing women or in extreme cases, pedophilia and things like that. You can see this commonly in Afghanistan, Saudi Arabia, etc. I would rather my husband have had a girlfriend that he knew as a full person with pluses and minuses...than someone who hooked up with hookers or just fapped to really warped creepy stuff. The latter stuff dehumanizes women more I feel...and has more of a negative effect on a relationship.
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But now I think that if a guy is around 30, it is almost unhealthy for him not to have been in a relationship ever... .
It definitely must be harder for a guy to abstain from sex for so long...but I wouldn't call the abstinence unhealthy. I understand your point about being frustrated to the point of seeking outlets that are not halal. But to satiate that frustration even with a much cherished girlfriend doesn't make it right. It may be "less" wrong than going to a hooker or or employing the other methods you mentioned......but wrong is still wrong even if we'd prefer one to the other...and either way it still shows lack of control.
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if you loved soemone but when you were not together he had sex with another girl would you still marry him ? just a hypothetical quesiton. just want to know how girls think.
Hi Ice baby... i just gone through the whole post in detail again coz your story sounds very familiar... and im right then i can definitely help you in making this decision... just send me a private message and let me know if you are from sydney... If you are then i know the guy personally and i can tell you every detail about that guy which you can verify yourself as well. not bull**** i dont need your name or any contact details or anything i will tell you everything myself... all i wana know if you are from sydney then i know who this guy is and i can show you his real face with hardcore proofs.
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Tedennnnnnnnn… Now we’ve got some real dramatic twists.. keep us posted too guyz 