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so elbee.....enlighten us....what is the proper, lady-like way to enter and exit a vehicle?
let's see what convent schools teach us..
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Muzna
definitely would.
forget kids, part of my b school requirements were this seminar..no credits for it, but it took place every 2 weeks and covered topics ranging from running meetings, to lunch interviews, dinner etiquette, utensils and proper usage, how to dress, how to work a room at a social event, wines, cigars, etc etc etc.
It was enjoyable, and diff ppl were at diff stages in their social skills and etiquette or schmoozing etc. and all enjoyed it, good speakers, with great sense f humour and it was never putting down anyone always very informative.
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"work a room"
most desis don't know the meaning of this term....
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I'm single...
Yes I would send them.
Its good to equip the children with social skills.
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I don't think I would. I think they'd develop any necessary social skills through their various interactions as they grow up. I don't think it's any longer necessary to know which fork is the salad fork in order to converse with most human beings. To some degree these schools advocate a sort of comformity that I'm not comfortable with. I'd much rather have my children spend their time on religious, academic, creative, athletic, and fun pursuits.
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Agree
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Interesting......
Muzna...you are a real lady.
I don't know....one of my sisters she is very particular about doings things in a certain way.....but me....I dislike formality.....I dislike structure.....I am an informal type of person....
I think sending someone to a finishing school would drill into into them how to behave or do certain things...and I think that it is too rigid and makes them into robots....which I don't like. I have seen kids coming out of such systems and being out of touch with society, and getting corrupted in the process. It does not make them better humans.
But having said that I have seen a couple of young ladies who I am sure have been to a grooming school....and yes there is something about them that is appealing...the way that they walk....the way that they talk...their body language tells you that you are looking at quality.
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You mean Ghora Gari ?? 
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The gentleman gets out and opens the door and then the lady gets out....She turns her body around putting both feet on the pavement and then gets up.
Am I right?
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^ How sweet
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:k:
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no i wouldnt simply because i want to teach my kids manners according to the way i think is best (islamically, culturally etc etc) not the way some stranger thinks its best.
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In the end does it really matter what liquid goes into a wine or water glass? Stuff like that, seems way too rigid and formal..
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i dont think i wud/
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Ir really depends. My parents were very particular about teaching us social etiquette and all. these things dont take years unless someone was pulled out of a cave. for some it is simple reinforcement of concepts for others who have not been exposed to it its learning some generally accepted ..and expected skills/behavious/etiquettes. a little here, and a little here and its all good.
yes you dont need to know which fork to use for what, or how to properly eat soup and what nots..and can live a successful life. I mean most americans have no clue but they seem to do okay. Most desis are clueless, and I suppose they dont have the lifestyles which
But, you get invited to one formal dinner, some sort of political fundraiser, important event with a partner or client in Japan, and thats when either you scramble to learn or make yourself look like an uncouth peasant without social graces.
As far as skills such as working a room, thats something most of us can use. It has nothing to do with being extroverted or introverted but learning what is the best approach, best place to be, how to enter and exit groups without lookign like you are barging in or bailing out respectively.
Many of these things are taught in proper families, but look around you, and forget forks and knives for a moinute here..go to a desi restaurant and see ppl eat desi food and how disgusting some can be… wel conformity or non coformity, would you like to be seen as the disgusting diner at an important dinner..no matter how unecessary YOU may think knowing this stuff is?
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does it really matter f you know how to use chopsticks?
i mean unless you are working with the japanese and they may like the fact that you took time to learn how to properly use their utensils and understand their cultural norms and try to show respect by adhering to them?
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world is a small place now. one has to learn the manners and etiquettes of other cultures, especially cultures of countries they may be living or working in, or cultures which they come in contact with for work, business etc.
why do you think govts train their diplomats before they send them to other countries? its more than just utensils and whether you out you napkin on the chair or the table when u step away from teh table etc..its more than that..
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Thats exactly the thing Mr F. These seminars that are given in our school district go over exactly that type of thing which you can TELL your kids about at home and even try to simulate but it goes so much further when they actually get the experience.
There was an article just recently in the NY Times (I think) that was talking about how to avoid cultural disaster. It was talking about simple things like giving a "pat on the back". In the western world this means "good job!" but in oriental cultures, it means "too bad, you are doing a horrible job." Eastern cultures are known to separate men from women in formal settings, western cultures do not. It is a sign of being "at ease" in the western world when a man crosses his legs but in some eastern cultures, its considered to be really rude, most especially when the bottom of the foot can be seen. There are so many of these "little" issues that are so huge that I will take advantage of these cultural etiquette type things whenever I can for my littles.
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No, I wouldn't. Only if I had more money than sense.