or Always keep yourself normal with your in-laws if your spouse is of the type who misbehaves & has a cold attitude to your family whenever you both have some issues running between you? Tolerating this for years and waiting for the spouse for khudi sharam aa jayegi kabhi has not happened yet
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I say don't reciprocate, but do talk to him/her about it. Reciprocating would be a recipe for disaster. If one talks to their spouse about it, hopefully the spouse has a sense of decency to acknowledge that you're talking to them about rather than sinking to their level.
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I would fix the husband’s head…aisi sunao ke tabiyat durust hojaye. But what happens between us stays between us… And really hold his marbles in a clutch if he dares to act out with either side of parents.
Apni bhi koi izzat hai 
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No I say dont misbehave with the ILs, its not their fault that ur husband acts like this with yours. And then in the end he will say, u do the same, so why does it bother u if I do it too.
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dont reciprocate....!
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I say don't.
Just because your spouse is immature doesn't mean you have to be.
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isn’t it natural that you keep hating them in your heart when in the back of your mind you feel bad for your family?
(no amount of arguments or head-fixing works because the only answer is “I can’t change my nature” and unfortunately the grudge gets spilled on OWN kids too 
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is there no way to communicate with the husband/wife in order for him/her to stop?
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Fine out the reason there is distance between hubby and family and try to resolve the concerns he has.
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Woah!
"this is my nature"? Like, its this person's nature to be mean to in-laws?
That's pretty revolting (if it is the case)
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do not reciprocate.
not because of how he behaves or how they will see you but because Allah wouldn't want you to......
that's all.
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Once you reciprocate, there is not much difference b/w you and other person (in this case your spouse). Secondly, I am sure you want to "fix" the issue sooner or later. How will you talk to your spouse about the issue when you bring yourself down to that level yourself?
Yes it might be hard to keep the relationship warm b/w yourself and your in-laws if your spouse is giving cold shoulder to your parents for no obvious reasons but do not go to the extent of reciprocating it.
Teaching by example is the best way out there....
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Its not your inlaws' fault proto so don't take it out on them.
I'd not reciprocate but I'd definitely stop making excuses for him in front of my own parents. If he can't fix himself, then at least we can fix the situation so your family isn't hurt by his behavior.
His demeanor is his own responsibility. How he conducts himself is a direct reflection of himself.