How protective are you of your friends of the opposite gender?
The reason I ask is this.
I was talking to an Indian Hindu acquaintance of mine at school the other day and he told me that he will never ever compliment a muslim girl, no matter what. I was very surprised by his comment. So I asked him, “What if she is your friend and she wants to know if you think her colored contacts make her eyes look nice?” He said that she will have to ask someone else because he is not going to risk complimenting her. When I asked why, he said that if he compliments any muslim girl, she might go tell her muslim guy friends and they may try to beat him up. Because he feels that they might take that as disrespecting muslim girls.
Now I am wondering, what person would actually want to get into a fight with someone because they commented to a girl? Is this common? Would you pick a fight with someone because they commented to/onyour friend? Would you only do it if they were aggressive or it was a come-on? Under what circumstance would you do such a thing?
Do you get upset when non-muslims make any sort of comments to a friend of yours of the opposite gender?
And why do some non-muslims think that muslims are like this?
I don't thnk my sister (if I had one) would be allowed to have guy friends. Secondly, even though I'm not an extremist (that is, believing in purdah) I would definitely get angry if it was a compliment with sexual conatations. I wouldn't resort to physical violence the first time but would get some of my black and other pashtun friends to scare the **** out of him.
Weird scenario.. and weird hindu dude friend u've got. Friendships with the opposite sex **almost **always ends up with one part or both getting "feelings" for eachother.
Anil, the guy said he wouldnt even say "You look nice today" out of fear of being beat-up. I'm wondering where he got this notion from.
Danish, he is really an acquaintance at school. How is it a weird situation? I think thats quite common for girls and boys to meet people of different faiths and gender, especially at school.
I meant weird that anyone wud beat up a guy for having givin compliments to a girl. Strange that ur hindu friend thinks that. U shud force him to give u compliments and let him realise that no one is beating him up :D Unless u beat him up urself for not giving good enough compliments.
Anil, sure ur sis wudnt be allowed (r u her dad/bodyguard )to have guy friends, but i’m sure u wudnt see it as a no-no to have girlfriends/female friends for yourself right right right right?
And anyway, pretty much every guy-girl friendship leads to something more if the two spend enough time together..and share enough of themselves with each other. If you think ur friendships r all platonic, well the other person had, has or will have feelings for you at one point :biggthumb
Munni, I will take a page from Anil's playbook. If someone even LOOKED at my sister I would kill him, but that's not gonna happen, cuz I have my sister locked up in a cage in the basement, problem solved. See, I don't trust that women have any brains at all and I feel like if a guy says even something trivial like "I like your shoes" that a woman will just strip and throw herself at the guy, don't you know that all women are like that and can't be trusted?
Oh shoot, I just remembered, I can't do all of the above because I'm not an ANIMAL!
I have few guy friends when i talk to them i feel like i am talking to another girl. and if one of them do tell me i look pretty - i go tell me something i dont know -
Even if guy try to throw something at moi - i nail them down for once and for all
There is no point of getting upset when someone compliments you. They are appreciating Allah’s creation.
its ok to take care of ur sister / mother etc but to go to extreme and start fighting is no good. also if sister is enjoying taram-tari & akh-matakay then let her enjoy. afterall she'd be going back to her cage in the basement as mentioned by brother-aahmed. :D
Nothin wrong with being protective of ur sister(s) but yeah, when u distrust them, lock em up coz u think at the first taste of freedom they’re gonna sleep with the first guy who smiles n winks at em (becoz of course women are inherently evil and slutty and are hte main root of eivl in the world), while you urself are out doing those things u wudnt want ur sister coming across, well thas pretty pathetic
lol This reminds of this situation last year in Six flags.
Me and my sis who is in college we were wating for one of the rides. These 3 bengali babu’s started to stare at us and smile and laugh.
Anywayz as i sat down on the ride thing they started to make faces and one of them said “upar ja rahi hai [meaning ride was going to up in the air forgot the name of it ] to upar hi chali jaey Allah ke pas” - that pissed the crap out of me- i had belts etc all around me i didnt watn to create a scene and stop the ride for other people as well - but i did say “abey wait right here until i come down! i am going to beat the **** out of you- dont you dare go anywhere” khair losers ran away- they cannot win from a punjabi mutyaaran *grin.
I saw them later on told my brother as well-. My brother put his hand on his shoulder took him in the corner and said " hey bro how you doing today? listen you see those two girls they are my sisters. You don’t talk to my sisters or look at them in nasty way- you simply dont do that---- all i have to do is make 1 call and in half hr you will be in a hospital :D" - being punjabi and pathan my brother got both looks
upar ja rahi hai [meaning ride was going to up in the air forgot the name of it ] to upar hi chali jaey Allah ke pas
Okay is somethin wrong wtih me, coz I dont c anything really worth getting pissed off abt? But ur lucky ur bro wud do that.. mine wudn’t even let me go to Six flags at all
)to have guy friends, but i’m sure u wudnt see it as a no-no to have girlfriends/female friends for yourself right right right right? 
:mukka marnay wala icon:
But ur lucky ur bro wud do that.. mine wudn’t even let me go to Six flags at all 