Someone who was smarter than you richer than you had more knowdlege on religion compared to you not bad looking basically somebody who out did you in most aspects/fields of life?
Character matters more than anything you mentioned. If he is humble and down to earth, I would. If he is arrogant and will look down on me because I haven’t achieved as much as he has, I wouldn’t.
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Life01,
Agree with LP; what is his character like? Instead of focusing so heavily on all the ways that you feel he “outshines” you in…why not also focus on your needs/wants?
For example, how do you feel when you talk to him? Do you click or is maintaining a conversation a struggle? Are you uneasy or comfortable interacting with him? Do you both have similar values and priorities and life-goals? Do you feel respected by him? Does he communicate maturely? How does he handle conflicts? What are your expectations of a husband and do you think that he could meet them based on his responses/behavior? Do you think that you can meet his expectations of a spouse? Knowledge is as knowledge does. Does he actually put into practice his knowledge? It’s said that ibadat se paarsai milti hai, par naiki se Rabb milta hai; in other words a combo of the ritual ibadat in conjunction with striving to improve character.
You’re the other half of this equation, OP. Don’t lose yourself.
Can a family member (sibling, for instance) be present when you talk to the guy? If you can’t do face-to-face, then what about via phone/text/email? Is there any other way to get a better feel for him…such as through people within the community (or anyone) who would know him? Social media (FB, etc) can sometimes provide a clue. But if you truly are very restricted, then do istikhara…and I know that you’ve done it before, so that’s also an option. Best wishes. 
one can’t ever be sure…you can try for sure…but don’t aim to ‘know’ someone…you only get things at face value.
Ofcourse i would as long as the person is humble and nice.
If he/she is “smarter” and have “knowledge of religion”, I dont think this will be an issue in the relationship.
I wouldn’t view it as him “outdoing” me. My husband is better than me in some areas but I view it as an equation balancing out.
He’s my partner. We have the same goals. Its not a competition.
The question is, if he is so much better than you, why does he want to marry you?
Maybe there is something in you that he sees of great value, that you don?t realize.