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if the girl is extremely beautiful, i would do anything for her! ;)
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Salam
May I suggest something.
PCG I read your posts with interest and also share censored version with my mom.
The guy said .
Yes I married her for green card. But she made my life a living hell.she was disrespectful, frowns upon even when I talk about bringing my parrents and selfish...
Plz read between the lines
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^^
Just that the guy wanted his parents in too before he divorced her I suppose ;)
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I’d never marry a guy 
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Tell me something about this guy. Sounds like an old friend of mine.
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^ pwner, the world is made up of all sorts and what may seem like an "obvious answer" has lots of shades of grey. I'm going to throw in a slight twist - but this is based on a real-life scenario.
Guys comes to US on student visa. Guy dates non-Muslims for fun during his student days. Guy cannot get status in US independently. Guy's non-Muslim gf offers to marry him so he can get his green card (according to him, she agreed to help him out and knew the marriage would end after he got status). Guy and his gf get married. Guy gets green card. Guy and his gf/wife get divorced. Guy now seeks to marry a Muslim girl.
Woud a Muslim girl marry such a guy? The answer is yes (he is now engaged to a Muslim girl).
Do you guys know how many cases there are like this? Loads of them.
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Haha, you guys think I’m flaming on this one?
We got a rishta a few months ago, and my mom got excited about it because the guy is from a memon family that is related to some of my cousin’s inlaws, and I guess maybe the family has some social history that elevates them amongst other memon families (our families can be hierarchical I guess, like I’m sure everyone wants to marry someone in the Shaan family - i.e. Shaan masala).
So anyway, my mom is oo’ing and aw’ing at the call she got while we were in the car running errands out in December.
After she prodded the story I immediately motioned to her cut it off, and to be nice, she tells them "We’ll let you know’, and I was like seriously mom? Really? The name of the family is that important to you that you’ll give these crazy people a chance??
Story is family comes here, and guy’s mom is wanting to get him married so he can get some sort of a green card status. I’m not sure under what legal status the mom and dad came over, so whole thing seems fishy to me. Later I was to find out from one chaachi who heard it from another chaachi who happens to live in the same US city as this family “Zainab behn, why did you marry your son to that girl?”, “Oh we were in jaldi, because of his green card issue, and so we got a rishta aunty, found some girl we thought would do and married him to her, and she was awful and didn’t do what we told her and she wanted to move to live somewhere else, and where is my poor son going to leave his dentistry job and move with her? So we gave her a divorce”.
That marriage conveniently lasted a little over 2 years, which is the number of years needed for your conditional green card. So once the two year period was over, his mom encouraged him to drop the girl, she went back to live with her parents after the divorce, and now they’re looking for fresh meat.
Since I’m in my 30’s, I guess some intermediate family members probably referred me to the old lady thinking PCG is an old hag now and will settle for a divorced guy.
What irritated me is that my mom was interested based on title of the family name, and the fact the dude is a dentist.
I told my parents I don’t care if he is a dentist. If his family just rushed him to marry the wrong person because they had the green card as a piority in their mind, then guaranteed they will never find me to be a priority in the relationship.
Not to mention that if his mom is averse to her son moving about for his wife, haha, my career will drag me all over and I’d be dragging the sorry pansy sob around the states do putting his poor mom’s nerves on a wreck.
Just was turned off when I heard from the grapevine that she was telling others that she had married him to that girl because he needed a greencard, and didn’t have any guilt about kicking the girl out once the boy got his legal status.
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Later I was to find out from one chaachi who heard it from another chaachi who happens to live in the same US city as this family "Zainab behn, why did you marry your son to that girl?", "Oh we were in jaldi, because of his green card issue, and so we got a rishta aunty, found some girl we thought would do and married him to her, and she was awful and didn't do what we told her and she wanted to move to live somewhere else, and where is my poor son going to leave his dentistry job and move with her? So*** we****** gave her a divorce***".
We? It sounds like his parents were quite involved in that marriage. It rather sounds like there were 4 people in the marriage. Being close to one's children is one thing, but taking it to the point where you consider yourself as part of your son's marriage ("we gave her a divorce"), quite frankly, borders on the incestuous and is quite creepy.
The fact that his parents blatantly admitted to using his ex-wife for a greencard is rather dodgy and quite vulgar and demonstrates that they have rather questionable ethics. This speaks quite negatively of his upbringing.
You are not an old hag, so there is hardly any need to "settle" for anyone, divorced or otherwise. :)
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Well I don't remember if she said "we" I was paraphrasing but my hunch was she was instrumental in that divorce.
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a guy who is divorced, and divorced from her conveniently after getting his green card from her?
no.
Why? ;)
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The guy and his family look culprit based on the story you mentioned. If this is the case then don't proceed.