don't see anything wrong with it for others, but personally for me the cousins i know well I treat them like my brothers and that transition would be way too awkward.
for cousins who i barely know i might not care as much, because they'd be just like strangers to me i guess.
I think it also depends on whether someone has grown up together or not. If someone grows up together with each other then I find it weird if they marry, I don't get how they can.
But as I said its not my place to judge, I disagree with cousin marriages when it comes to me but if two people want to marry and are cousins then good for them.
well if my family was even half as retarded (literally and figuratively) as some of the families described in stories here on GS then i would definitely find every excuse in the book to avoid it. for example, if my cousins all thought that being "matric-pass" made them eligible bachelors or if my khalas/chachis/phuphos were befriending peer sahabs to get black magic done on their enemies or if my uncles had a history of fighting with each other at every family gathering, i too would want to avoid makin them my in-laws.
but thankfully, since my cousin was an amazing catch and my aunt/MIL is an educated and accepting woman, i considered myself lucky to be in the same family and therefore be first in line to have the opportunity to accept/reject his rishta :)
Since it is halal, I have no problem with the concept.
However, someone I know just got married to her cousin, and both the mother of the groom, and the mother of the bride are sisters, as well as both their fathers are brothers, (and the 2 fathers are cousins of the 2 mothers). Did I mention this couple also grew up together in a joint family (as in the same house) and I just find that a bit too much. To each their own.
I dunno man, thats a bit creepy to me.
I'm actually the opposite, I don't think anything of arranged cousin marriage...but to fall in love wiht a cousin and then get married just feels...really...wrong.
I didn't grow up with my cousin, our relationship only developed just before we decided to get married (wasn't arranged completely). I have nothing against cousins marrying, because not all families work in the same way.
I do share the thoughts that if families stuggle to get on just as family the last thing you want to do in chuck in the complication of becoming 'in-laws'.
I wouldn't marry a cousin as I see cousins as brothers. If someone wants to do that good for them but I personally wouldn't. Having said that I wouldn't marry a friend either as I see them as my brothers too =) The person I marry has to be chosen by moi parents.
Allah said anything done in excess is bad (meat is halal but too much of it is obviously going to be bad for ur health, isn't it).. nothing wrong with cousin marriage in itself but as Curious Lady already mentioned marrying first cousins generation after generation can lead to an increased risk and this has been acknowledged by scholars (if anyone wants to look up the info it's on Sunnipath)..
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Yeah i agree, that goes without saying...But my point was to ppl who totally disagree etc. I mean if theres nothing in islam thats says u cant marry ur cousins then I think its inappropriate for ppl to say that its wrong. Im nt saying that every1 shud go marry their cousins, thats ur personal choice but its just nt polite coz sum1 ppl have parents that are cousins or are married to their cousins.
And yes ofcourse its bad when theres an excess of this but i personally think that *most *people dont go that extreme...
my cousin(my father’s sister’s son) looked like craig bierko so totally tall and handsome but he got married at the age of 21 and i was 15 then so wasn’t possible…
I've nothing against people who marry their cousins, but personally I'd never want to do it. And no, I don't see my cousins as brothers either, so its not an issue of finding it sick/disgusting. I'd just rather stay far far AWAY from all the family politics that comes with marrying a cousin, especially in my extended family. So, yeah.. no cousin marriage for me.
Personally I find it quite weird. I believe its just the way you are raised and how your family structure is. I have always considered my cousins my sisters. But then there are families where cousin marriage is the norm and children are not raised to believe that their cousins are like their siblings. It should be ok for them. To each their own.
I would never marry my cousins. I've always fought with them for as long as I can remember, but now my khala and her son both are acting weird. I told my mom to tell my khala to stop acting weird around me because it's freaking me out. lol
shadi with cousins is HALAL IN ISLAM can not say no BUT
my mom wanted me to marry in khandaan most of them are very good looking but I refused it coz they been callin me BHAI for the last 20 years or so ...
how can I ..
I've nothing against people who marry their cousins, but personally I'd never want to do it. And no, I don't see my cousins as brothers either, so its not an issue of finding it sick/disgusting. I'd just rather stay far far AWAY from all the family politics that comes with marrying a cousin, especially in my extended family. So, yeah.. no cousin marriage for me.
Allah said anything done in excess is bad (meat is halal but too much of it is obviously going to be bad for ur health, isn't it).. nothing wrong with cousin marriage in itself but as Curious Lady already mentioned marrying first cousins generation after generation can lead to an increased risk and this has been acknowledged by scholars (if anyone wants to look up the info it's on Sunnipath)..
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Yeah i agree, that goes without saying...But my point was to ppl who totally disagree etc. I mean if theres nothing in islam thats says u cant marry ur cousins then I think its inappropriate for ppl to say that its wrong. Im nt saying that every1 shud go marry their cousins, thats ur personal choice but its just nt polite coz sum1 ppl have parents that are cousins or are married to their cousins.
And yes ofcourse its bad when theres an excess of this but i personally think that *most *people dont go that extreme...
In parts of England that 'extreme' is actually the norm amongst Pakistanis..
I know this might not be the case in other places but in the UK a lot of the desi kids who do marry their cousins tend to come from families where their parents are also first cousins (and often the grandparents are as well).. I've lost count of the number of girls I've come across who've said that their parents allow them to only marry within their family.. they do tend to be Mirpuris..
If u look up the statistics u'll see that that around 75% of young Pakistanis in Bradford marry their first cousins.. A lot of their parents see it as a tradition and an obligation that they themselves have been thru.
No because I am not interested in them for marriage purposes. Besides I am not a big fan of getting married in family, at times it brings bitterness b/w close relations.
i marrying my 2nd cousin..n i really dont care that hes related to me..im just happy i found someone i like n m attracted to..cause god knows how hard that is..its a big big relief that the hunt is over..
