Re: Would you marry someone?
If she’s cursing your mom, then you have bigger problems than just her not taking a stand for you. If this is how she behaves during conflicts, then what guarantee do you have that she won’t curse your family again? If you’re contemplating marriage with her, then ask yourself if you think she makes a good garment? Spouses are supposed to be a garment or libaas for one another, they’re supposed to protect each other’s izzat and image among other things…not humiliate each other in front of family. Maybe she doesn’t tell her siblings to stop mistreating you because she knows that they won’t listen to her or that they’d turn against her too. But then again, her own behavior (the cursing) is worrying too. Think about whether or not this girl has the qualities that would make her a good wife/mother in the long term. After apologizing for her mistakes, does she make the effort not to repeat them again or do you see her making the same mistakes over and over again? Do you see her losing control of her temper over and over again? Do you see her being influenced by her family over and over again to the point that she acts on their influence? If she repeats the same mistakes, then ask yourself if you have the energy to continue put up with this behavior? If you’re still undecided, then do istikhara. If she’s right for you, Allah will make it easier and if she’s not right for you, He’ll bring it to an end.