Would you marry someone

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Re: Would you marry someone

@krash

This whole idea that lineage (or ‘khoon’) has something to do with the worth of a person is source of so much hypocrisy and tragedy in our culture. I personally know a lady in Pak who had the misfortune of being born out of wedlock. She was adopted and raised by a decent and pious couple who were related to the birth mother. However, the truth of her origin was common knowledge in the extended family and community. From a very young age she had to defend herself from people of ‘good lineage’ making passes at her - ‘Jaisi maan thi vaisee baiti ho gee’ was the refrain thrown at her constantly. Arranged marriage was out of the question. Fortunately, she ended up in a love marriage with a person who accepted her with full knowledge of her background.

Couldn’t have said it better! My cousin was adopted and was born out of wedlock. She faced a lot of problems due to it. My own uncles and aunts taunted her for it as if it was her fault. Her parents protected her like hawks. She knew it from the very beginning but I doubt it hurt her any less.