Re: Would you marry someone with a less profile job if you could choose someone bette
You know the geeky science guys ur talkin about Would’ve been the same whether they were in science majors or arts or business or IT. Atleast that’s what I saw while I was at university. Some guys just didn’t know how to talk to girls ( as in just not do anything special just don’t be wierd, be normal and polite and know how to carry a conversation) and it had nothing to do with the field they were in. It didn’t even have anything to do with exposure, it was just how thy were brought up. There were really nice and well mannered guys that didn’t speak English well or hadn’t had too much interaction with girls during schooling. My husband had studied in an all boys school all they way till he went to university in the US. And u couldn’t really tell by the way he carried himself. He was Generally friendly but not creepy, he was courteous and an introvert yet not standoffish. And there were other guys who were really really friendly cracking (appropriate) jokes n stuff but still not creepy, so it’s all about how u conduct urself.
And OP to answer ur question if it was a guy I liked and he was not an engineer/doctor I would still want to marry him. On a funny note one of the checklist stuff my husband ticked for me was that I was an engineer (and he liked/wanted that). And I too liked “engineer qualities” in him because technically we’re sorta borin geeky ppl. (he’s an engineer btw, different specialization than me though) We like watching documentaries on science, health and technology. He’s good at figuring out how stuff works and how to fix things , Mcguyver stuff sorta (unrelated to his field but engineer kind problem solvin skills).He comes home discusses his work problems with me (ppl problems as well as technical issues) and he likes that I’m not completely stupid or uninterested about them. Now I have friends who would never want to be discussing stuff like that with their husbands, they find it boring and frankly too much technical detail puts them to sleep.
I asked my husband once how he decided that I was the one. (He had apparently been observing me for a while before he proposed, we had mutual friends so he used to be present in gatherings that I was in and I didn’t know him personally, just hello hi). So we were at a casual dinner at someone’s place (all students) and we were getting icecream out of the freezer to eat. Anyway it was in the tub/box and it was a vanilla chocolate flavour that was set in a check pattern. So if u looked at it it looked like a chess board in the box. And I said to my friends (both girls, one engineer and one non engineer) I wonder how they do this, to get the pattern. They both brushed me off and were like yeh whatever lets just eat the icecream. And i was still wondering so i started thinking aloud and said no cuz the icecream mixture is liquid and poured in and then frozen so how did they get the pattern. Anyway, that’s when he knew lol! How geeky is that. So my point is it was my inherent personality that he liked (not specifically that I was getting an engineering degree). And I used to joke with him later that he wanted an engineer wife but he didnt know that I just have a degree in engineering and that I’m not really an engineer, there’s a difference.
My friend (who’s also an engineer) whos been looking for a rishta , had this one proposal who was doing a Phd and she was talking about it like that was a minus point for her! And I just couldn’t comprehend that. I mean ofcourse if it’s a guy who u wouldn’t be compatible with otherwise that’s fine but her bone of contention was the Phd was making the guy sound too dull and boring and uncle-ish and what not. And for me that wouldv been a plus point (my husband wants to do his phd sometime in the future and I am in complete support of that). So I think everyone’s different (I dont have any friends that I can think of that would have a great preference for the qualities that my husband has) and everyone has their other half somewhere and ull find ur someone iA who will be looking for stuff that u have.
That’s a wonderful story. Good advice as well. Main thing is to remain broad minded and ultimately we’ll find someone suited to us. Glad you and your husband found each other. I find im the type who likes puzzles and riddles. I’m always thinking “why.” Must be the only real scientific quality i have.