would you marry a guy who is not virgin

[Maham]

@baynishan

few days ago someone was having a discussion on a thread here and he mentioned that he is getting married but he is not virgin or anything, so it’s not gonna be his first time. and he was totally cool about it.

that worries me so much, is it really not a big deal for *muslims men anymore?

i am a very conservative person and i don’t hang around guys as much so i guess that’s the reason these kind of things still surprises me.

i know a pakistani muslim girl from my college who got married couple of months ago and her husband who is also pakistani and muslim wasn’t a virgin either, and the girl’s sister told me that. they seems like very traditional family, so i was very shocked to hear that, and also how it’s not really a big deal for them.

it’s very big deal for me, i would never marry or even wanna be friend with a person who has been involved in that kind of activities such as drinking and adultry, because they are gunnah-e-kabeera.

what do you girls think? would you happily marry a guy who is not virgin (and never been married) ???

this frightens me too! cuz honestly nowadays very few people have value for things like virginity, character but those who do, to them it means the world. So yah…often i get upset thinking what if the one you get married to doesnt value morals the way you do…and its a scary thought its not something you can really adapt to or adjust to…:=(

I guess all we can do is pray for our aachey naseeb.