Would you live with your in-laws or separately?

[Maham]

Re: Would you live with your in-laws or separately?

@GoriLady

Islamically, does is the correct method to live with the husbands family or is this a Pakistani cultural practice? I always thought it was cultural.

If you are happy living with your inlaws then why not?

I just hear more bad stories than positive ones… I too am family oriented but if the family I am marrying in to makes my life miserable then they will have to be kept at a distance. I wouldn’t want to be an unhappy mother to my children and I wouldn’t want my children to see my allowing others to disrespect me. I have heard stories of Pakistani DILs becoming the equivalent to maid servants.

Check out this link, I read it yesterday and it is very appropriate:
A Wife's Right to Housing Separate From Her In-Laws - SeekersGuidance When I’m questioning my fiance’s cultural practices which I cannot differentiate between being religion or culture, I tend to turn to Islamic sources for advice. I found the above.

I think i clearly stated in my earlier post that staying with them is my option UNLESS they want to kill me or harm me. So i am not endorsing staying with yr in-laws in every damn situation BUT pls all these women out there who think they shud move out cuz they dnt get to rule the house then i dont think thats worth the move.