Would you live with your in-laws or separately?

[Deeba1234]

Re: Would you live with your in-laws or separately?

@GoriLady

**Islamically, does is the correct method to live with the husbands family or is this a Pakistani cultural practice? I always thought it was cultural.
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If you are happy living with your inlaws then why not?

I just hear more bad stories than positive ones… I too am family oriented but if the family I am marrying in to makes my life miserable then they will have to be kept at a distance. I wouldn’t want to be an unhappy mother to my children and I wouldn’t want my children to see my allowing others to disrespect me. I have heard stories of Pakistani DILs becoming the equivalent to maid servants.

Check out this link, I read it yesterday and it is very appropriate:
A Wife's Right to Housing Separate From Her In-Laws - SeekersGuidance When I’m questioning my fiance’s cultural practices which I cannot differentiate between being religion or culture, I tend to turn to Islamic sources for advice. I found the above.

It’s** totally cultural**, the whole idea of the DIL moving into her inlaws home came from Hinduism and is a remnant of** that **culture that a lot of Pakistanis and Bangladeshis haven’t been able to shake off, despite it not being recommended for obvious reasons..