Would you let your husband..

[Deeba1234]

Re: Would you let your husband..

^True..

[strangeworld]

Re: Would you let your husband..

@Deeba1234

Well he got what he wanted when he married me, didn’t he.. and no he hasn’t asked me to change..

I would change/alter my look IF it was something I also wanted, if I didn’t I wouldn’t bother.. it’s as simple as that.. I wouldn’t ask him to change or do anything he wouldn’t feel comfortable with either..

And talking of Islam I doubt that’s meant to be taken so literally.. What if he wants me to stand on one leg ALL day? You know cause it makes him happy and isn’t against our religion ..

Well clearly shows how much you respect your husband and how much you know Islam.

And the example you gave I’m presuming you referring to your husband as a crazy person because a normal human being would never desire anything stupid like that from his wife. So please don’t try to cover up your selfishness and self love because you don’t comprehend the beauty of Islam and what it means plus I’m not your husband who would fall for things like that, no offense but certainly there are men out there like your husband and women take advantage of their decency and innocence.

Never forget if after Allah anyone in the world was supposed to bow down to is a woman to her husband and that’s pretty self explanatory for someone having decent Islamic background to understand how big of a concept that is.

It doesn’t really bother me what you do at your home and with your husband. I just can’t stand someone making new meanings out of Islam to suit their needs.

[Deeba1234]

Re: Would you let your husband..

^You need to grow up.. You’re obviously not married and have little clue as to what a normal healthy relationship entails..

Marriage is about compromise on BOTH sides.. hence husband and wife being described as “garments” for each other.. The husband has rights over the wife and she also has rights over him..

If you’re going to mention Allah in your post you should have refrained from the personal comments above, esp as you know nothing about me or my husband in our personal lives.. I respect my husband fine thanks and he knows that.. After all he CHOSE to marry me..

[redvelvet]

Re: Would you let your husband..

@Deeba1234

Well he got what he wanted when he married me, didn’t he.. and no he hasn’t asked me to change..

I would change/alter my look IF it was something I also wanted, if I didn’t I wouldn’t bother.. it’s as simple as that.. I wouldn’t ask him to change or do anything he wouldn’t feel comfortable with either..

And talking of Islam I doubt that’s meant to be taken so literally.. What if he wants me to stand on one leg ALL day? You know cause it makes him happy and isn’t against our religion ..

Standing on one leg all day will take a toll on you physically and it would prevent you from namaz and from fulfilling the rights of children and others who depend on you. It’s oppressive…and so I doubt such a demand would be condoned by Islam.

[strangeworld]

Re: Would you let your husband..

@Deeba1234

^You need to grow up.. You’re obviously not married and very immature going by the words above..

Marriage is about compromise on BOTH sides.. hence husband and wife being described as “garments” for each other.. The husband has rights over the wife and she also has rights over him..

If you’re going to mention Allah in your post you should have refrained from the personal comments above, esp as you know nothing about me or my husband in our personal lives.. I respect my husband fine thanks and he knows that.. After all he CHOSE to marry me..

I need to grow up, how cute Well it’s funny you bold the word “compromise” when you need to understand the meaning of it. I suggest you google

As far as Islam is concerned please study this topic in detail husband’s right over his wife and wife rights over her husband.

Marriage is not a rocket science that I won’t know anything about it unless I’m not married myself. Alhamdulillah I know enough in that regard and which is something women don’t find nice and that’s what happened here.

If you guys are happy together I wish you more happiness and blessings and I don’t think there’s a need to know about your personal life here we’re only discussing over the topic and you again saying “he CHOSE to marry you” lol.

Were you absent when that happened? Or it was only his will and you were being forced into that marriage?

Let me try to explain what compromise means in a married life.

Compromise mean when you scarify/give away/act or do something you weren’t comfortable/feeling easy/happy doing/giving away or scarify in full or partial for a person you’re married to in order to make that person happy knowing the fact he’d do the same for you.

In your last message you said and I’m quoting "I would change/alter my look IF it was something I also wanted, if I didn’t I wouldn’t bother.. it’s as simple as that.. I wouldn’t ask him to change or do anything he wouldn’t feel comfortable with either.. "

Now it’s beautiful how you did justice right there by saying you don’t ask him to change or do anything he wouldn’t be feeling comfortable doing either. Which also means if he does something then you gonna do otherwise there’s nothing he can expect. So in other words it’s a trade show or a game for you

Now if you won’t do anything you didn’t want is not a compromise rather the opposite to it. And every time you ask him to take you out somewhere or anything like that and despite the fact he’s not feeling like doing it but still does that is a compromise. So compromise isn’t something you didn’t do because you didn’t want or feel like doing and you never asked him to do either because you thought he wouldn’t like to do that as well.

Now you gonna say you do a lot of things on daily basis you didn’t want to do but still you do for him. And that’s the discussion I don’t want to start.

I’m sorry if I offended you because it seems like that to me but once again stay blessed nothing personal here

[Deeba1234]

Re: Would you let your husband..

^COMPROMISE means both people meeting in the middle in case you didn’t know.. You specifically mentioned me my relationship so I answered in kind..

You didn’t know you offended me? Maybe you should try and improve your English in that case then:

**“So please don’t try to cover up your selfishness and self love”

“Well clearly shows how much you respect your husband and how much you know Islam”

“certainly there are men out there like your husband and women take advantage of their decency and innocence.”

**

[strangeworld]

Re: Would you let your husband..

@Deeba1234

^COMPROMISE means both people meeting in the middle in case you didn’t know.. You specifically mentioned me my relationship so I answered in kind..

You didn’t know you offended me? Maybe you should try and improve your English in that case then:

**“So please don’t try to cover up your selfishness and self love”

“Well clearly shows how much you respect your husband and how much you know Islam”

“certainly there are men out there like your husband and women take advantage of their decency and innocence.”

**

You know a quote is coming to mind right now.

**“Girls have an unfair advantage over men: if they can’t get what they want by being smart, they can get it by being dumb.”
**
I loose, I admit that, sure, haha

And funny thing is you don’t realize why I said all those things and in reply to what to be exact and in what context. But never mind!

[Deeba1234]

Re: Would you let your husband..

^No, I don’t realise..

Can’t reason with people who think culture and religion are always linked (as seen in the "westernised asians/brown people’ thread for anyone who’s wondering)..

[strangeworld]

Re: Would you let your husband..

@Deeba1234

^No, I don’t realise..

Can’t reason with people who think culture and religion are always linked (as seen in the "westernised asians/brown people’ thread for anyone who’s wondering)..

You never will

Because you don’t even know the universal cultural phenomenon which is the reason you’re married today was told by Islam/Allah not a phony/mastermind western writer of culture.