This is pretty much it. Men hold the power in the relationship. If he wants to move her away from her family, she has to comply. If he doesn’t want to be too social with her family, cousins, extended relatives, he can dip out. He has issues with his in-laws, they probably wont even bother him from miles away for fear he will leave their daughter.
Our Pakistani women don’t have that kind of power in the relationship. For one, they dont have any financial independence to get out of the marriage safely, they don’t have much of an education in general to stand up and logically argue with the husband, and even if she is a smart cookie with or without an education or job, her family will not be so supportive of her disobeying her husband no matter how silly his requests are.
And prior to marriage, so many people lie on issues like hijaab, privelege to keep her job, privelege to pursue more education, and allowances to travel and visit family, etc, that its hard to tell if you’re going to end up in a marriage where he just tries to change everything about you to suit his power trips.