would you intervene?

[Mezhgan]

Re: would you intervene?

@amber19

I think her main concern is that her going to her MIL might strain their relationship as they have one of those typical saas-bahu relations. Her MIL will outwardly ask her how do you know, who told you, etc and want names and details. I actually want her to speak though to her in -laws as well because yes it does concern someones future life. But I will definately tell her to bring up the “might ruin your reputation” bit if the marriage doesn’t work out or if they find out later on about the guy.

I think it is very reasonable and logical for the mother-in-law to ask these things. If one is going to make an accusation as serious and slanderous (in the event that it is not true) as the one your friend is making about this gentleman, one must be absolutely certain that what they are saying is true. This would require considering the exact source of the information.

Also, as I stated earlier regarding proof, what your friend is alleging is of a very personal and private nature, so how does she know for a fact that it is true? Hearing from someone or having someone tell her these things is not proof. Overall, I think that your friend should not get involved.