I was watching the show “The Other Half” today, and on it there was an interesting guest. This woman was a surrogate mother twice before, and is now on her third pregnancy. She also has four boys of her own. Apparently she is been pregnant for most of her life since she was 18. The first couple apparently paid her $15,000,000 + expenses. When asked if she automatically gave the child up after delivery, she answered yes right in the room
I was just wondering what you all think of this. Would you do this? If you couldn’t have kids the normal way, would you consider this option? Just curious to see replies
i would never do such a thing. it’s just not right. if allah mian didn’t want a couple to have children, then so be it. at best, an option is adoption besides others. Surrogacy is demeaning and plain wrong. how can a birth mother spit out a baby, her own flesh and blood, so heartlessly for the sake of $ (in most cases). so wrong!
btw i don't know if I'm clear on this-the sperm and egg are from the parents-the surrogate is just the place to...keep the baby so to speak.
me personally, i don't think I'd be able to do it, unless it was for someone really close to me
As for it not being in the couples kismat to have kids-then I think it wouldn't work in any manner.
I don't know that i agree that it is "wrong" per se, just different.
I've never had children so I don't know, but isn't there a bond btwn mother and child-I mean from the pregnancy-could a woman really easily give up that child?
One of my aunts was unable to have a child, so her sister-in-law, who already had 3 kids gave up her baby to my aunt, for free. I've always respeted she could give up her kid, but at the same time really glad my aunt got some happiness in her life
i can't even think about it..........!!!!!but well my baby sister was adopted by my phupho coz phupho had no kids ..........but it was not for money .....!!!!!
but still i think i can never ever do so........!!!!!!!
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Afia, how often do you see your sister, and are you close? Is she aware that you are her sister?
My cousin at the moment has no idea i think, because she is young
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it was asecret till she was 12/13 years old.....till then we had no idea but mostly ppl around you just can't hold it so now everyone knows ......until then she was pretty much a stubborn typo as usually the only kids in our society are...... but afterwardsv we became really close .......now i'm in europe n all my family including she is back in pak so we can't see eachother that often ......but whenever i'm there we have much fun ........she is younger than me with the difference of just 2 years.......so obviously we are close.....!!!!
:( i don't think i'd have da heart to do dat *sniff i'd go crazy :(
but den again like hanie baji said..it depends on da situation...if da other person's desperate n really really wants it n can't have it..den i mite think bout it..
This is a couple who for some reason cannot have a child-either her body rejects it, his sperm count is low, her tubes are messed-whatever.
What they do is take a sperm from the father, a egg from the mother, and all the other woman does, is have the baby.
You are not giving up your own child. You are not interfering in the couples relationship.
The child does NOT belong to you.
Me-i think its bad enough to go through pain for your own kids, much less any other, but if someone close to me, really needed it, i would give it close consideration...
I don't think its haram. Correct me if I am wrong, I've just never heard that surrogate motherhood is haram....
