Now id like to say something.
Reality-Check, if it is absoultely 100% accurate according to the sunni fiqh what you have posted regarding islamic prohibition in adoption.
This is probably the first post of yours im truly impressed by. And you post shud not be ignored.
People i know adopting seems like to us and most of the times probably is a wonderful side option. And i would love to pursue this option if i could not have my own kids as compared to another wife+ wife hurt + responsibility etc.
But we should understand if the prophet (pbuh) has banned somthing, or made it extremly makrooh, it is for a WISE reason, which ultimatly only for the sole benefit of the person involved in the activity and hence society.
It is praisworthy looking caring for and supporting and orphan..But that is exactly what they are…and ophan…and orphan is different from an adopted child…please acknowledge the differance.
The differance being: an orphan you keep in your house…will be kept under some degree of distance between the rest of the family especially the daughters as opposed to and adopted child who you would keep and be comfortable as a brother or son.
one could say that and orphan is still being kept as a gher-maram and treated as such which he is…similarly the adopted child is also gher-maram but treated like a maram..
I am not a scholar but the wisdom and analogy to this might be able to be associated near to the one, where nabi-pak was asked once about preferance of the ‘brother-in-law’ living in the house of the husband and wife…and he replied:
**-‘the brother-in-law is death’—**sahih bukhari
Therefore this hadith indicates that someone as close and loved as much as almost a brother to the wife should not live with the wife as he is still a **Gher-maram, **and nobody is discrediting the rep of the clean-hearted bro-in-laws but we know shaitan is the one always on the loose.
But as TLK brother suggested there is something in islam where a gher-maram can be made maram by feeding the milk of the maram.
But despite that i dont think it is as strightforward as it appears, and i cannot make any firm statements.
There seems to be some confusion over this but important matter I do wish the very insighted mod.s from the islam forum could help us out somtimes.
Personally I really also like the adoption option, and hope there is room for it in islam somway, and i would be utterly disspointed if it is not…but whatver it is we should make each other aware of truth atleast.
Waise I would advise people it is not always wise to search around google for islamic advice. There is a lot of matter from all types of people/self proclaimed mullahs.imams/sects/groups.opnions/ deliberate malinformation by enemies of islam/ that such which should not be given paramount importance, untill being checked by a Scholar.
For crucial matters i re-iterate once again you should approach a SCHOLAR OF YOUR SCHOOL OF THOUGHT…and then preferabaly confirm thier opinions from other scholars or scholars sources.
There is a very good and popular scholars online islamaic question and ask website, called askimam.com (somthing like that).
Which has been very succesful and been running since time.
It is a recognise and confirmed Sunni website, which has a massive stored data from past questions and answers,many of which are related to the marriage issues.
Sadz…u how…practical is it in todays life that a wife leaves her hsuband because he cannot have kids…i was coming from the side that how do you women feel about it when your man cannot produced and as ladies are less able to easily get out of the situation to have thier own blood-line…c’mon practically no lady is able to divorce her husband, cos of her loyalty to him and diffiuclty in society of getting another, and if the manis infertile–where does artifical insemnation come into it?..
so i was asking do you ladies…feel....somewhat treated more hashly/unfairly treated when in terms of options leftcompared to the former case of ladies being infertile.