Would you apologize to your spouse/fiance,etc even when it isn’t your fault? Why?
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Would you apologize to your spouse/fiance,etc even when it isn't your fault? Why?
I say don't be proud to your loves ones. If it will set things right, or make them feel better or something, do it! Reserve your attitude for people who don't love you :)
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No way. I don't apologise for something that isn't my fault. Imo it leads to all sorts of abuse once you start doing that. (Now I'm going to get shot for saying that).
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yeah.
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ofcourse i’ll apologize to make him feel better or to stop an argument.. apologizing wont really make me at ‘fault’ if i wasnt to begin with 
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Would you apologize to your spouse/fiance,etc even when it isn't your fault? Why?
No....absolutely not.
But then again....my fiance is mature enough NOT to expect an apology from me when it's not my fault.
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Why not do something wrong and then apologize? :p
Seriously: Just apologize to spouse..and move on.
Not good to have arguments at home.
P.S. Warm bed is better than cold couch.
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of course! ;) isii meN hamaarii 'bhalaaii' hai ;)
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it depends on situation, sometime it is better to apologize rather than confrontation.
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Provided it is someone I like/love, I would sacrifice. Khushi sey.
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Why not, if it brings peace to the house.
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No because 1) i believe in standing for the right. 2) i dnt think sayin sorry n getting away from handling such issues is gonna help future such cases :D.
But that doesnt mean you make it an issue of ego and let the argument linger on, i would do my best to make the other person understand my stand.
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No because 1) i believe in standing for the right. 2) i dnt think sayin sorry n getting away from handling such issues is gonna help future such cases :D.
But that doesnt mean you make it an issue of ego and let the argument linger on, i would do my best to make the other person understand my stand.
Agreed. Apoligizing once when its clearly not your fault sets the expectation for the future. Its not an issue of "ego"....if the situation if not my fault, then there's no reason for the other person to expect an apology from me. If he/she does, then it's a "ego problem" on THEIR part.
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I'll admit. Whether it's his fault or not, he's usually the first one to apologize because I'll be sulking otherwise and take my sweet time whereas, he likes to take care of things right there and then and move on. So now it's mostly him who apologizes first and then if it's my fault, I'll admit to it and we move on pretty fast.
I agree with IceSoul. It's not about one's 'ego' or me taking advantage of him. We just have different ways of dealing with confrontations and I think he's figured out that a simple 'sorry' is a pretty small sacrifice to make instead being upset and taking time to put things back on track.
I can be very stubborn but alhumdulilah he makes up for it by not letting his ego come in the way when sorting our problems out.
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I have a hard time apologizing when I know it's not my fault so I dont think I would if I knew for a fact it wasn't my fault buy thank god we both are really good at resolving issues and dont have a problem apologizing to get done with the situation/fight.
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No....absolutely not.
But then again....my fiance is mature enough NOT to expect an apology from me when it's not my fault.
fiances are mature but when they become husband,they turn very immature :p
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fiances are mature but when they become husband,they turn very immature :p
LOL....not if they're "trained" properly... ;)
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LOL....not if they're "trained" properly... ;)
:)..itz good if u think so...but wives living with them 24 hours can't do so...;)
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True…many wives can’t…but that doesn’t mean that ALL wives fail.
Besides…I never said that I don’t already live with him… :halo:
On a serious note…I think issues like this (ie. spouse EXPECTING an apology) arise only if the spouse thinks he/she can get away with it. Whether its a love or arranged marriage…I think clear boundries need to be set as to what is and what is not acceptable. If a husband or wife has the personality that gives their spouse the impression that its ok to expect an apology even though that person didn’t do anything wrong…well then of course its going to happen.
In my relationship, I know what I can and can’t “get away” with. In return, he also knows what he can and can’t “get away” with (and he’s smart enough to know after 2.5 years that expecting an apology from me when its not my fault is not happeing in this lifetime).
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Ok, I know a lot of us are taught peace-making even at the expense of ourselves. But if you don't expect your partner to act like an adult, he never will. Expect him to be a man and apologize when he should. At the same time, act like an adult yourself and do not apologize for other people's mistakes.