i see no reasons for rejections :-)
Yup, I would absolutely marry the person if he's a good Muslim and knows our cultural values. Don't care about the skin color!
as long as yur both happy, yur parents are happy, i'll be waiting for my box of ladoos.
moona yaad rukna love is colour blind, u never know u might fall in love with someone whos more darker coloured in skin then compared to lighter coloured pakistani's.
ahem @ nukly baba-G registered in march 2003
Although its kinda late for me to think that way .. but i dont see if i'll hav any problem with this... as long as the people click together.. i doubt that appearance counts... apart from the good looks nobody is perfect... i wudnt like anyone to reject me just cos how i look... so how can i do this to sumone else?!?! and as sumbusy already said above that the time spent together changes the feelings in between, i truly believe in that ...
although I am probably too young to be saying anything; I would probably except the rishtaa. but, i would obviously need to know more about this guy. I guess you could say that i am a bit 'modernistic' that i would like to get to know the guy more before i married him. i am not at all the type of person that is color oriented or anything like that; I usually am focused twords personality.
I never cared about colour so this would not have made a difference to me.
Just to make the question more interesting Nadia, is he rich?
I think that a lot of people would be less worried about colour if there was money in the picture. I've seen it happen several times.
To everyone who replied relevantly - Thank you. 
i was having some problems with one individual who wanted to divert this thread, but now that it’s cleared up, i want to continue this discussion.
MehnazQ, i loved your reply. It just made me feel so good inside, to know that there are people Masha’Allah who think like you. i think that’s a priceless moral you hold, as well as your parents.
Since you mentioned your parents specifically, i have to say that personally speaking - i know my Ammi would have a problem with it just because of the skin colour. i don’t think Abbu would, but in a hypothetical sense - i have discussed this with Ammi and she does have a problem with it. i understand it’s a reflection, maybe, of the culture she was brought up in. Simultaneously - this type of racist thinking, for me, goes against everything that i have studied about Islam. The first Muezzin, the first man to call the Azaan, appointed by none other than Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) was himself a black man - Bilal.
Thanks so much for your thoughtfully-written reply.
Moona, that’s fair enough. i appreciate an HONEST reply, that’s what i want.
>>in my personal opinion, I wouldn’t be able to handle the “black” looks of the person, given our culture that stresses acceptance within the community.<<
Do you think, sometimes, that there is sometimes no pleasing the Pakistani community? If it’s not the colour they will pick on, they will find something else. They also want one who’s a doctor (or an “engineer”), who has a home in America, makes a certain amount of $$ per year, is well-integrated into America but knows his roots, tall, etc etc. The list goes on. Sometimes they’re just no pleasing everyone i think.
Munni and Baba-Jee 
Thank you.
Aleezay and Rabbia, Yeah let’s say in the hypothetical example, their personalities match, they get along well. There’s mutual respect from BOTH sides towards the other - he respects you, you respect him etc. Aleezay, that was a good point that you wouldn’t want someone to reject you cos of how you look so why would you do that to others. :k: Good point.
Shirin, Let’s say not “rich”, let’s say he’s well-off. Financially stable. He’s not driving around in BMWs, and neither is he financially struggling.
From a personal point of view, i am not sure if i would like to marry someone who is rolling around in wads of money. Call me biased, but then i tend to assume that the guy must be arrogant and vain. (Another stereotype, perhaps?)
nadia, you're welcome :)
baba-jee...one point...it isn't a question of whether i would fall in love with a light or dark skinned pakistani. the question referred to a nego/black/kala, if i'm not mistaken. there is a difference.
dark coloured pakistani and kala are the same thing.
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nadia, you're welcome :)
baba-jee...one point...it isn't a question of whether i would fall in love with a light or dark skinned pakistani. the question referred to a nego/black/kala, if i'm not mistaken. there is a difference.
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What is the difference, if he is a good muslim then I really can't figure out what the problem is.
Lets face it girls we’re hard pressed to find a half-decent man these days and this guy seounds more than decent! 
Seriously, (and this goes to the other discussion of “Would you accept the rishta-for men”) I find the line “it all comes down to personal preference” hard to swallow because basically when it comes down it personal preference IS based on bias and prejudice and therefore on certain stereotypes. In the end I believe it isn’t even about personal preference but about who you feel most comfortable in spending the rest of your life with. If you think about the birds of a feather thing you will most likely be comfortable with someone of a similar mind set and background as yours. In that respect punjabis will seeks out punjabis and urdu speaking ppl will do the same and therefore gora kala neela peela will be the same too. Its natural. The fact this guy is African and not Pakistani, despite being familiar with pakistan and pakistani customs etc already rules him out as a prospective candidate for many people. However if the guy was a dark skinned pakistani, forget about the religious and pious, as long he has enough money, the girl is his. Its not only Afghans who sell their daughters for a “bride price” you know.
I am not attracted to black ppl.
But if I were then it wouldnt be a problem for me to accept the rishta. :)
A little late for me too
I always wanted that guy should be religious and should have good strong Pakistani cultural background and understanding. [Alhumdulilah i got what i desired]
I would not mind to go a head with it. There are several plus points; family is fimilar with Pakistani culture, he was raised there, Religion is dear to him and so does other family values. I don't think girl can ask for anything else. It would probably be very exiciting.
If a girl go a head with it. She would have kids who will have knowledge of both cultures, traditon and values. Its important to raise kids with enough capcity in their mind to accept others the way they are.
Personal Experience. Guys here didnt amuse me, infact i found them with tons of faults. If it wasn't one thing it was the other. I have always been one of those girls who knows what their heart, soul and mind desires. I literally wrote everything down in my mind what i wanted. When i clicked the search button in my mind only One name appeared and i went a head with my gut feeling :~).
Nadia this decision is extremely tough all i can say make sure its only you who will take it.