Re: would u consider divorce
Im guessing the thread starter is pointing to a fact that all the reasons are there for a divorce but circumstances post divorce arent going to be nice...
I used to have a student that i used to chat to...Pakistani girl from Glasgow arranged marriage with two kids...we had a long chat one time and she told me that she really hated her husband and that he was abusive towards her and just a terrible husband...
They seperated once and her own family stopped talking to her and all the other nonsense of cos she initiated the seperation then it must be her fault and the guys perfect and all of that bs...
Now in her case her kids missed the dad and she was getting a hard time...for her she felt she could cope in a ****e marriage which for me is a shame...i reckon she should have left but she stayed cos of her kids...
I disagree with her...
My mother initiated a divorce from my dad and had no support from anybody...she had to make it on her own but she did what was best for me and her...im of the belief that its better to be in a happy home...single family or not doesnt matter...the household is happy which wouldnt have been the case if she stayed married to my dad...all it would have been is constant arguments and id have to grow up daily witnessing all his bull*...im very lucky i didnt have him as a father figure and would hope more women would realise that a nuclear family doesnt mean * if the dads a dick...