would u care..

Lifestyle Relationships
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if one of your parents is unhappy with where u r getting married?

and occassionally u get to here thane from her like ‘shehzada to yeh heh na isliye to tum karai ho rishta’..and ‘ooh ab to koi kuch keh hi neh sakta na isko..bara khaas cheez heh na yeh larka’..

has any girl been in this boat..how did u deal with it?..especially if u were like so close with her and she was so influential in ur life..and she is the one who is acting like this

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Naturally, it would be very uncomfortable to get married if either of your parents are not happy with your decision. I'm assuming that your mother is the "unhappy" one here? Have you tried listening to/reflecting over your mother's concerns? Perhaps they are are valid. What about your dad and the rest of your family? How do they feel about the guy? If your dad is okay with it, maybe he can try to reassure your mom. Or maybe you guys all need to sit down and calmly talk this out (all the pros and cons...because it is a huge and life altering decision after all).

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Hmmm I was kind of in similar situation but my mom starting giving her views when it was just 2 weeks to my wedding. She never gave me tanay because it was an arranged marriage.

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I would sit down with my mom and have a heart to heart about it. Ask about her concerns and try to understand them. Then reply to them either based on objective knowledge about the guy or you, or different perspectives that you may hold.

I would give my mom's reasons a serious thought. I would try to solve any real issues. But if it's just a matter of perspective, it is JUST a matter of perspective. I will, in the end, do what will make me happy. I will be the one living with that decision, so I have to make sure I am happy with it.

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Use your head and try to see what she sees...you never know.

Sometimes as young girls, we tend to be more forgiving of things our parents see as problems. Why? Because they have been through it and understand which minor issues eventually turn into major ones.

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per us waqt lerkiyaan kuch nahi sochti haen, i dont know about boys…

i have seen girls whose mum is totally against her marriage but the girl is SO HAPPY dancing on her own wedding and maa full time gussay mein… per us lerki per koi ferak nahi perha

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Parent's blessings are important...

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thats discouraging. We do care for what our parents think about regarding our lives. Now if the other parent is fine and the one is having some personal problem then it can be tolerated as it will be alright as soon as they get rid of the offense they feel towards the person since at the end of the day parents and especially mothers bear everything in face of their childrens happiness.

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thanks mirage..made me feel a lot better

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Try misbehaving with the dis-agreeing parent. This will be a good rehearsal for what you are going to do with your MIL

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this is also an arranged ristha

very beautiful n meaningful to me n my situation what u said here..thanks