say you’re a girl and…you’re really good friends with a guy. you’ve been good friends for a while..you tell jokes, share your thoughts and dreams, and support each other in times of trouble.
and then one day it dawns on you…you’re actually falling in like with the person! because he’s always there for you, even if u just want to kick around a soccer ball, or have a serious intellectual conversation.
would you bring it up with him..that you actually like him? or is that just whacko?
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Depends on what he feels. If I were to know that he likes some1 else, then probably I wouldn't bring it up since he already likes someone else but if I were to know that he likes noone, then maybe I would let him know how i feel.
Ps - I would not try to "buy" love (thought telling him that I will eat pills, yada yada yada if he doesn't marry me) but rather would earn it if possible.
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awwwwww thas soooo cute 
HHL, eating pills isn’t buying love, thats emotional blackmail , woh aur cheez hai 
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hmm. what if you have no idea how he feels? i mean..uptill yesterday..you thought of him as a good friend too...but its only TODAY that ur realizing...that you like him more than that..u have no idea if there's another girl in his life..then..do u still confess up?
ps- dont worry. :p im not that gayii guzri
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sara whats sho cute? im in a dilemma here! 
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IT ISSSSSSSSSSSSSSS cute!!! Well I did tell him i liked him, and i was stupid enuff to think he did too, in fact that was the only reason i started seeing him in a diff way coz ppl around us were like “ooo he likes youu, he did this and that for you, that means he must like you” and turned out he liked some other girl that I had NO CLUE abt 
and so umm yeah ..baat khatam
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Yaar that (eating pills) is still forcing. I mean love cannot be bought, you have to earn it. And this is what I believe in.
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ok ure right
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awww DAYUM! 
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ps- dont worry. :p im not that gayii guzri
Ummm......yeah. I probably would. Because (what I believe) is that if that person says yes then thats good. But if he says no, then I wouldn't force him because winning is not always where two ppl marry, It can also be being happy for ur friend for the things he likes. I would not let one incident of my life stop me from going on and continue my life.
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acutally no not baat khatam, it shuda ended right there, but since i was very dheet and stupid, i let it go on longer, i ended up staying friends with him n everytime i saw him wit her it was like a punch in the stomach…we’re friends now, and he’s a gud person , i don’t regret being friends with him..but i just wonder, how would things be if i’d just moved on and quit being friends wit him right then and there..guess we’ll never know :hinna:
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This is why i mentally prepare myself b4 I do anything. I think of the consequences b4 i do something. I definately would not regret telling the other person how I feel but I would not have my hopes up and would not let one little ‘rejection’ stop my life (the way it was b4). This way, even if I get ‘rejected’, it wouldn’t be as bad as when u have ur hopes up not knowing the future.
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Eh.. it was my 1st time ever liking anyone, esp since it was for serious intentions (i.e.marriage)..i was, oddly enough just sad abt it, thoughts running thru my mind were "why will he like anyone like me? he can have someone a million times better llooking/acting/smarter/religious) etc. I dunno if i'd been more positive abt it, about myself, things wud have turned out differently, but then again i jsut tell myself its all kismat, if its meant to happen, it will happen :)
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Yep. Whatever happens (good or bad) happens by will of Allah and for good. If it is good thing that happens to u, u should thank Allah for it and not be ignorant after recieving barakah from Allah. And if it is bad thing that happened, then you should have Sabr and learn from it. No doubt that when something bad befalls you and you wait with Sabr, you will get sawaab for that.
But yeah.....I see what u mean. This is what happens first time. But don't let that experience stop u from living a good life. The whispers are nothing but Shaitan's ideas. I wouldn't even care for those thoughts if I were you. just know that whatever happened to you happened for good and by Allah's will. Who knows, maybe Allah will give you something 10 times better. :)
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and then one day it dawns on you...you're actually falling in like with the person! because he's always there for you, even if u just want to kick around a soccer ball, or have a serious intellectual conversation.
would you bring it up with him..that you actually like him? or is that just whacko?
you talk too much pinky :D
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u shud not say anything, and stay away from that person. Save urself the trouble, stay the way u are with him/her.
If you say anything, it cud hurt later on.
And if its meant to be, u'll eventually end up together anyways :p
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Its better not to tell him, because you never know how he might react and it could be embarassing for the both of you. why not just wait and see if he feels the same way before confiding anything
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there is a saying nothing ventured nothing gained. I think you should tell him...he may also feel the same way about you. It's a risk but in love you have to take risks and expect to get hurt sometimes, its all part of the same parcel.
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True, but I guess there was a difference between you and that boy. If you were somehow given the opportunity to see that, you'd see it. Many times, we push ourselves to something what is not congruent to our selves. Don't worry, you'll find someone.
Another suggestion. Start looking at things more practically. Start looking at the fact why do you tend to like someone. I am sure, you''ll find hundreds of reasons to let the guy go....
Same goes for moys too. I don't wanna sound patronising, but just my own comments.
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and then one day it dawns on you...you're actually falling in like with the person! because he's always there for you, even if u just want to kick around a soccer ball, or have a serious intellectual conversation.
would you bring it up with him..that you actually like him? or is that just whacko?
I'd say, tell him without regard of if he likes you or someone else. :) BTW, I already know what will happen but I just want you to vent these thoughts to this guy. After this you'll understand a lot of things.....