Would/have you told your spouse about previous relationships?

[Shak]

Re: Would/have you told your spouse about previous relationships?

@TLK

my take is one should not be very over inquisitive about his/her spouse’s past. If present looks ok and there are no obvious flaws, dont inquire too much. If she was involved with someone (even if it was a fling), it was in the past and its not that she was cheating on her unknown future hubby.

Is it more ethical for him not to ask than for her to lie. I think yes.

I agree but sometimes if a person’s past is dodgy then the other should find out by the person himself/herself instead of finding it by someone else’s mouth much much later on because then it’d feel like betrayal