Would you marry a guy shorter than you? Or would any guy marry a girl taller? What are your reasons for and against.
Height doesn’t change anyone’s personality. What if the guy was 5’7’’ to 5’9-10? Or if you were a guy of that height and the girl was a couple of inches taller?
Plenty of famous examples of such people like Tom Cruise or the 3 Khans. However when it comes to the ordinary person people have ruls against it.
Is it because being a shorter person will make you feel less secure or make you stand out in society? People like Jackie Chan and Bruce Lee are 5’7’’ and they can take on any one taller.
If you’re a guy and you like a taller girl is it about what people would say, do you feel you have a complex about it? Why is that when lot of famous shorter guys have no trouble feeling successful or finding taller girls.
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I have a cousin (Pakistani) who is 5ft 4ins. He is married to a stunning 5ft 8ins Arab woman. It was a love thing.
They are two very easy going people. My cousin has the wittiest personality and a very care free disposition to match his short stature. Being around him as a child was always unpredictable and a laugh and not much has changed now that we are hitting our late 40's.
He is of humble background and makes a decent living. His wife comes from a very affluent , old monied family, and AH, they have been happily married for almost 15 years. She never ever wears heel, but is always dressed impeccably in the latest fashions.
Oh..and my cousin wears his normal shoes/sneakers , never ever wore elevator shoes.. He is AH a very confident individual.
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date yes, marry no...sorry i know you made a differentiation between the two...I'm an average 5'4", but then again if he is someone like the character mentioned by ninjamummy you can't say no to that.
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Given the pattern of your threads, I’m guessing that this question has something or the other to do with your own height.
You can solicit the opinions of all the women on here, but will you marry all of them? No, you’re going to marry just one woman. And that one woman, whenever you’re destined to meet her, will accept you for your looks and personality…and when that happens, the opinions of all the Guppans, your ex, your female cousins, and any other woman won’t even matter.
This may sound harsh and I don’t intend to hurt you, but what will taking a poll in each thread accomplish for you? Would the results get you hitched faster? Don’t wait around for opinions or to get married. It’ll happen when it’s meant to be. In the meantime, pursue your professional dreams such as looking for opportunities to further yourself as an architect, travel to a place you’ve always wanted to visit, try experiences you’re curious about. These things are what will help develop your self-esteem and make you stronger and less dependent on others for approval. Go live your life and be okay with saying “No” to people…yes even your sisters…sometimes as opposed to doing anything and everything they want. When people see you have boundaries and can’t be easily taken advantage of, they’ll respect you. We do, to an extent, teach others how to treat us.
You might believe that wallowing in this funk where you ask others for their opinions about looks and your profession and your personality will be helpful. But it’s only therapeutic to an extent. If it’s done often, you risk developing the habit of asking others and seeking approval. So you’ll end up depending heavily on others for your self-worth and there’s a danger in that. It doesn’t liberate you; it internally shackles you. Also, it can be draining for others to constantly reassure you. There’s an even darker side where some friends and family members can even use your “weak points” against you, so you have to be careful about whom you reveal your insecurities to. Those that are sincere will support you until it drains them; and those that aren’t will thrive on unsettling you with their criticism.
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Height affects a man's desirability much more than a woman's.
If youre a short guy your dating opportunities will be fewer than a taller guy all else being equal.
The problem is not that women want a guy who is taller than them. That is understandable because every man is about 4-5 inches taller than his statistical equivalent woman. So if youre 5'8" guy your statistical equal would be a 5'3"- 5'4" girl.
The 'problem' is when women who are 5'1" but want a guy who is atleast 5'11" . And there are plenty of these around.
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I have a cousin (Pakistani) who is 5ft 4ins. He is married to a stunning 5ft 8ins Arab woman. It was a love thing.
They are two very easy going people. My cousin has the wittiest personality and a very care free disposition to match his short stature. Being around him as a child was always unpredictable and a laugh and not much has changed now that we are hitting our late 40's.
He is of humble background and makes a decent living. His wife comes from a very affluent , old monied family, and AH, they have been happily married for almost 15 years. She never ever wears heel, but is always dressed impeccably in the latest fashions.
Oh..and my cousin wears his normal shoes/sneakers , never ever wore elevator shoes.. He is AH a very confident individual.
That was a nice story. I like reading such open minded tales of love. Feel free to continue this trend on all of my gloomy sounding threads. I love how they were both comfortable in each others skin. Confidence is key it seems.
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date yes, marry no...sorry i know you made a differentiation between the two...I'm an average 5'4", but then again if he is someone like the character mentioned by ninjamummy you can't say no to that.
Really?? only worthy of a date. Well that is something at least and you do say it is based on personality
Re: would any girl date a guy shorter? Or a guy date a taller girl? Why/why not?
Height affects a man's desirability much more than a woman's.
If youre a short guy your dating opportunities will be fewer than a taller guy all else being equal.
The problem is not that women want a guy who is taller than them. That is understandable because every man is about 4-5 inches taller than his statistical equivalent woman. So if youre 5'8" guy your statistical equal would be a 5'3"- 5'4" girl.
The 'problem' is when women who are 5'1" but want a guy who is atleast 5'11" . And there are plenty of these around.
Your comments are worth their weight in gold. I'm liking your perspectives. I agree short girls can get guys of any height and some often prefer taller guys. It is more of a discriminating factor for guys. Although there are some girls who will look beyond that.
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I’m getting too predictable. Thanks for your words. I take all suggestions on board and i realise i am sounding needy and a bit desperate of approval. Really i’m more confident and sure of myelf in real life. Here i want to know how community thinks about thee issue compared to me. Me height is not a really big issue and does not worry me that much. You are true. Opinions here should not matter to me more than that one person i meet. I feel like the answers and stories i hear here might prepare me for any future rishtas. I have had some bad past experience and I can only talk about this online. I would rather not talk much about this with my male or female friends. They might think i’m trying to get sympathy. It also helps me feel more sure about how i will act in that situation. I don’t know that many Pakistanis in real life so this will be my main source.
You are right wallowing in this is not that helpful. So i will try to do less and try to separate positive from negative feedback. I know i’m laying myelf bare on these threads and the insecurities one but it feels good to talk about these things like fears and anxieties rather than keep them buried. Chances of someone i know reading this or detecting me is low. You right that i must be careful who i share all this with.
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^ that’s so sweet of you pcormac2013, you have replied everyone but not IndiGo Rain, She has a point. These POLLS will leave you nowhere. From going to one extreme to other like this, you will miss the great deal of common sense.
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Reply to kia, right? I try to be fair to everyone. Thanks. I know i will only hear extremes but maybe also some commonsense stories. It’ good to know if how community thinks is same or different to me. It will save me from heart break next time i have rishta. I’ll know what girls expect. If i can’t meet the expectations then maybe i’ll be better with no relationship. Already loved and lost once don’t want to make it habit. Shaadi is something you should do when you meet someone who understands you and is like your soulmate. Otherwise i don’t see point? Its not farz. someone can just adopt children if all someone wants is children.
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I am 5ft-11 and before marriage I always had a fascination for tall girls, especially ones that are a few inches taller than me and ones that are really short like 5ft-1 or so.
Re: would any girl date a guy shorter? Or a guy date a taller girl? Why/why not?
date yes, marry no...sorry i know you made a differentiation between the two...I'm an average 5'4", but then again if he is someone like the character mentioned by ninjamummy you can't say no to that.
Interesting. Because men get a lot of scorn for having the same mindset.
Thanks. I know i will only hear extremes but maybe also some commonsense stories. It’ good to know if how community thinks is same or different to me. It will save me from heart break next time i have rishta. I’ll know what girls expect. If i can’t meet the expectations then maybe i’ll be better with no relationship. Already loved and lost once don’t want to make it habit. Shaadi is something you should do when you meet someone who understands you and is like your soulmate. Otherwise i don’t see point? Its not farz. someone can just adopt children if all someone wants is children.