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So a while ago I started this thread about my bf. I was thinking a lot about all this which his friend has been doing with him lately like telling him to fast 2 days & go drive somewhere for this many kms. My bf is in navy of this particular country (I wouldnt want to reveal) & I really do think he is some spy now. Why? Like he met him when he was travelling like few months ago say 5-6 months. Like a while ago I talked to my bf & he said whenever I talk to you he gets to know. He was constantly calling him on his phones to make him stop talking to me. Then I started to think how come he always gets to know everything related to his phone,He has tapped his phones & whatever he does, call, sms, whatsapp to whomever he gets to know instantly or how else one could know. He is acting as he is his spiritual friend (trust me spiritual ppl are not like this the way he is) & he says he is trying to keep him away from danger & bad people. I was like this is intrusion in your privacy how can he know whom you calling & who you should cal & who you shouldnt. He told him to stay away from some of his friends & he gets to know whom he is sitting with.

Now I told you guys in my previous thread how he told him to go drive fro like 100+ kms away from his house & then come back that too in his car. He told me on call that he is so nice to even let me take his car & I asked if all the keys (your house & car keys) are with him but then he got angry at me that I bad mouth his friend & all. Now I think he made him go away to plant stuff into his house & car coz why else would he tell him to go away & take his car too why didnt he let my bf take his car then? I really do think he has planted cams, microphones & what not in his hours & car plus tapping his phones too. He was in IT before so you never know if he is diverting his calls msgs to his phone. He has access 24/7 anyways. Now recently he told him to go to the beach & take like 10 dives. This is getting ridiculous now, this is insane.

Now few weeks ago he said they are moving offices so since he has authority he had to move all the confidential files under his supervision. Now I dont know if that piece of **** was with him or not cuz he told me this on whatsapp. He is a freaking spy for sure. he is with him 18 hours out of 24hours.

What I am worried more is how to inform my bf? If i do that kamina will get to know through msgs & calls what I talked to him about. He doesnt let him meet me either now nor talk if he calls he gets to know so there is no way I can tell him to buy a new sim & dont tell him & he is not hiding anything from also. I dont know what to do. If I ask to meet again its through those old numbers & that **** wont le him.

Do you guys think I am overthinking? I am really not worried for anything? Its just all in my head? What you guys think I should do? Report him? but that will trouble my bf too coz he let him in so much that he got access thats different he has manipulated him though ?

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Your concerns are very legit, your bf is a feeble minded fool to allow someone to control him. He legit might be gay also in those societies there can be a lot of closet gays because of societal intolerance, only reason a man puts a guy before his woman

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Problems don’t disappear with marriage. Let him go now and meet someone else.

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If by “those societies” you mean Pakistan then we are not in Pakistan & he is not in Pakistani navy but of some other country so no one has to hide anything.

Also if someone is with you 24/7 then it gets easier to brain wash & manipulate that person. Anyone can get influenced.

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well its not that easy. I am really worried about him as he makes him do stuff that doesn’t make sense in the name of his spiritual friend.

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So we can rule out Afghanistan…They don’t have a Navy!....:disgust:

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omg what is all this? such weird behaviour. why are you putting up with it and even asking what you should do? message your man that he needs to fix up and you are concerned he is wiretapped, you want to talk about your relationship and to do it in person. if he says no, then just walk away. far too much nonsense for an out of marriage issue not gonna lie.

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Perhaps the life of your bf is very stressful, so much so it has caused some personality disorder. I've heard some training programs first fully break down a recruit's personality, then re-build it to the exacting standards of the academy. The process of breaking down can sometimes be quite disgraceful to put it mildly. Once the training is over, the scars of the process continue to show up in civilian life. I had to tolerate such a colleague who was ex-military and I used to be scared of him shooting me someday after he pointed and fired a toy guy toward me besides many other subtle acts of harassment that had taken place before that. I never complained as I knew it will cause bigger issues for me. May be the saint friend and his crazy puzzles fill some psychological void in your bf's life. Surprisingly, such folks are good with money and investment so appear to be very smart but have supper difficult personalities so tread carefully.