So i had a question..i’m at a pt in my life where my husband and i are planning to have kids…inshallah soon.
However, i’m also trying to change my job…i don’t enjoy my current work. it’s not horrible, there is flexibility etc it’s just not what i want to do…
But some issues
-i’ve only been there 10 months, what if i change jobs, get pregnant and quit there in another year…that would be bad on my resume
-what if i switch jobs and have horrible morning sickness etc. i’ve already established myself here, they know i’m good and give me leeway if i need time off, go to appts, etc…
-my current job is with a great institution, to be honest, i could probably leave and still come back in a few years etc…b/c i have alot of “brand name” resume recognition.
But then i’m thinking about my career and then i don’t know if i’d want to stay at a place for a year if I don’t enjoy it…and then am i at a point in my career where if I am shifting focus to a different area and want to gain experience, taking a break will not help me come back into this area later either.
It’s so hard…one one hand i’m thinking that 3-5 years at home with the kids is a small sacrifice if you get to see your kids every day, really help them grow and hopefully have wonderful children as a result…on the other hand there’s this educaiton and career i’ve always wanted to have…
i hate how as a girl i have to put this all into my decision making for my career.
If I were you, I'd continue at my current place. If the company is flexible, you should get days off..I thought companies paid you a certain percentage for the days you are off after delivery. Once you are back in the flow of things, you can always consider moving to another job. A new job and a baby simultaneously could get hectic.
i'd agree with the fayz... continue with your current workplace.. i kno it would be a lil hard for you at first .. but it would be the sensible thing to do at such circumstances...and once your done with all the jitters... you can get back into the flow and change jobs and what not... would be a safe thing to do.
I agree also...u have a good rep with the current company so they r more likely to be lenient with u while u r pregnant...once u have the baby, u cud always start a new job...for now, it seems best for u to stay put...there's nothing more rewarding than spending as much time as u can with ur kids...up to 5 yrs is a small piece of ur life to give up for such a beautiful experince...ur education will still be there in a few yrs...and if ur career means that much to u then, talk it over with ur husband...maybe u can work something out where both of u get to work and share family responsibilities equally...it's not just girls who go thru this stuff...guys feel the same about leaving their kids and work affecting their family life...difference is, in our culture guys r just expected to be the ones to spend less time with the kids...good luck, wotever u decide to do :)
congratulations amelie. That's really good news. Insha-Allah you will enjoy motherhood and from what I know of you will be very good at it.
I would agree with Fayz and advise that you remain with your current employer. Even if you don't end up with nausea, etc., you will still want to have the kind of understanding and rapport that you have built up with them.
Maybe speak to your boss at your current workplace, that how will things change around the workplace if you were to become pregnant and how would they accomodate issues like morning sickness, etc? If your boss is female, and has had children, that would help.
^ Yes, that usually occurs when you are almost 40....that would be the way to go...going to your kids high school graduation with a "sooti" and college graduation in a wheelchair. :)
PC the current work is good...good company, flexible schedule, good boss, i'm 2nd to him so have alot of power,....Its just now where i want to stay/go career wise...which i realized now that i've done it...i want to move into another area....but that would require a career shift etc. I can do it...have started networking/conneting and exploring to get the other jobs...
As for waiting till i'm sure career wise..like kaleem said...who knows when that will occur.
I actually realized one thing i can do..stay at this job...take a break once we have a kid.
Then volunteer in the area i want to go into there are tons of opps here to do so...which will help me gain experience AND often grows into a part time/full time job when i want it.
