Recently some people have raised questions on women’s income, and women’s rights with in-laws.
Re: Working Women - the Islamic Perspective
Points of the video to take home:
-you CAN work
-you get to keep the money, not hand it over to him to make final decisions on it (and because it is your Islamic right, you don't need to feel like you're being greedy by doing that)
-and I had no idea about this - if you spend on your family, it is counted as charity/sadqa
Cool.
Re: Working Women - the Islamic Perspective
Points of the video to take home: -you CAN work -you get to keep the money, not hand it over to him to make final decisions on it (and because it is your Islamic right, you don't need to feel like you're being greedy by doing that) -*and I had no idea about this - if you spend on your family, it is counted as charity/sadqa * Cool.
Its not counted as charity/sadqa ,the money husband spends on wife & children is considered "better" than doing charity/sadqa just like making love of husband & wife is considered "better" than namaz/roza.
I haven't seen the video yet though.
Re: Working Women - the Islamic Perspective
@ PCG,
when the husband spends on his family [parents, wife N kids] it's NOT sadaqa...it's farz on him but when the wife spends, it's charity because it's NOT her responsibility to bear the expense.
if wives spend [on their own FREE will, no pressure applied...both moral and physical] it's their money and free will...husband has NO say.
it is encouraged for EVERYONE to be kind and generous and treat everyone courteously so one should spend as much as he/she can...this will fetch the person handsome rewards from Allah, inshaa Allah
Re: Working Women - the Islamic Perspective
Its not counted as charity/sadqa ,the money husband spends on wife & children is considered "better" than doing charity/sadqa just like making love of husband & wife is considered "better" than namaz/roza. I haven't seen the video yet though.
Watch the video, please.
Re: Working Women - the Islamic Perspective
WOW.
Re: Working Women - the Islamic Perspective
Nice, but nothing there that I didn't already know.
Re: Working Women - the Islamic Perspective
It's actually common. I have a couple of friends who are married, and they're restricted to their rooms when their FIL and BIL's come home. Kinda sad that you can't move around in your own home after marriage.
Re: Working Women - the Islamic Perspective
It's actually common. I have a couple of friends who are married, and they're restricted to their rooms when their FIL and BIL's come home. Kinda sad that you can't move around in your own home after marriage.
All I can say about the guys who "restrict" their wives to their rooms need to grow a pair
Re: Working Women - the Islamic Perspective
I have one friend where it's not that easy. Her husband does not TELL her that she can't leave the room, but her FIL believes that he should not SEE the FACE of any na-mehram, and his DIL becomes a na-mehram, so if the FIL is in the living room, she can't go out there.
Whole arrangement makes no sense to me, because the husband lives in another state for work and travels back and forth, and as her FIL and MIL don't know how to drive, she drives them around. Weird, I guess her FIL doesn't go out of the home then, because he'd have to sit with his DIL.
Just bizarre.
Re: Working Women - the Islamic Perspective
This is my take on the topic:
This 'my' work, 'my' earnings, 'my' decisions 'my' life, etc etc. notion is becoming really redundant here.
Whatever the explanation maybe, if a particular husband does not believe or understand this concept being discussed here, there is absolutely no justification to start threads like these every few weeks or whatsoever.
Its like someone reading Twilight over and over and over again.
Re: Working Women - the Islamic Perspective
This is my take on the topic:
This 'my' work, 'my' earnings, 'my' decisions 'my' life, etc etc. notion is becoming really redundant here.
Whatever the explanation maybe, if a particular husband does not believe or understand this concept being discussed here, there is absolutely no justification to start threads like these every few weeks or whatsoever.
Its like someone reading Twilight over and over and over again.
Well, I mean, even the imam in the clip acknowledged that men will argue with him over this after the Q and A session. :) It's ok. Tell us how you REALLY feel about a woman being able to do everything you can do, and more?
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Well, I mean, even the imam in the clip acknowledged that men will argue with him over this after the Q and A session. :) It's ok.** Tell us how you REALLY feel about a woman being able to do everything you can do, and more?**
Is this sort of a general question, or are you specifically asking me? I can't really tell.
Re: Working Women - the Islamic Perspective
You. You seem uncomfortable with the topic. Do you disagree with the points made in the video?
Re: Working Women - the Islamic Perspective
You. You seem uncomfortable with the topic. Do you disagree with the points made in the video?
I am not uncomfortable with the topic. I just have issues with repetitive topics. Someone would say, "pls get a life".
My POV on women working, society & life in general:
As a matter of principle, women can do whatever they want. They can wear whatever they want, they can go wherever they want and they can live however they like.
I will not rant on about husband wife relationships, but if the wife wants to exploit the relationship and not work toward positive outcomes, then the husband can exercise this rights as well. And these back and forth confrontations will have no happy ending.
The women in my life are encouraged to study whatever they like to study and use that study to have a better individual and collective life.
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Off topic
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If the whole idea of "my" money, "my" job, "my" house "my" this and that leads to disagreements, disputes and ultimately divorce, then who is responsible for it - Islam or this Imam?
Re: Working Women - the Islamic Perspective
If the whole idea of "my" money, "my" job, "my" house "my" this and that leads to disagreements, disputes and ultimately divorce, then who is responsible for it - Islam or this Imam?
The person who said it.
Aray chup karo ji
Re: Working Women - the Islamic Perspective
I agree with sheryarkhan.
I dont think anyone is objecting the video, just tired of hearing the same tune again and again and again and again and again.
I went to a wedding once where the family were deeply religious and they had a few scholars give speeches in the men's area. He talked about how people focus too much on what they deserve and their rights but never take note of their own obligations and duties to others.
Maybe next time you could start a thread about the responsibilities of a wife from an Islamic perspective? I've yet to see one of those.