ive worked with males for most part of my life.. being in IT, u dont find too many girls in your field… well most of the ones who ive worked with are either in training or receptionist/help desk kinda work… ive only ever worked with one female developer.. and she was pretty good…
ive found working with males always A LOT easier than females… that being said, i had never actually worked with a desi male in close proximity..
at my new place, i work with two desi males quite closely… one is someone who I go to for support.. and another who has to come for me for support…
working with the first (for the few weeks here) was rather uncomfortable as i dont think he ever worked with another desi female, but we got over that and its been good since then as we both understand that no one is better than the other and we are talented in different ways.. so it works out well..
the second, he’s younger than myself and also below two levels.. except im training him to take my position when i go for maternity leave… and gosh its hard!!! he doesnt listen… theres issues with me being a girl even though he doesnt admit it.. (well he did once) but aaagh its annoying..
i think im really hormonal at the moment and thats prob why im letting it get to me.. but its sooo annoying and hard…
Sadzzz, I can't help you with your particular situation but I can tell you this much. Stop blaming everything on your hormones. Too often I think we do that, yes we are much mre emotional than men but that does not mean we are irrational people. I just think its unfortunate that when we have legitimate concerns it's always dismissed as "just hormones."
working with women is much more easy than men, cause men are only driven by power, and are ready to do anything to get up the ladder, even backbiting....while women have a more positive and open attitude, they put less stress on their job cause they think more about family...so i guess that guy want to dismiss you and prove you are not good enough for the job, so that he can keep it after your maternity leave is over....men are like snakes....ready to bite you when you turn your back....be carefull!
I prefer working with females mostly or by myself, eventhough I get a long with guys pretty well normally. I've worked with all desi males before, and I dont ever want to do that again. Had to quit my job because I didnt know how to stand up for myself at that time.
This kind of brings back memories of last year, i was training this newcomer and for the first few weeks she wouldn't look me in the eye when conversing...to begin with i found it annoying, but i also understood she felt uncomfortable...but eventually once she was comfortable and got to know me she opened up and we got one well.
Strange you feel that way. I am also in IT and majority of my co-workers are also male. However I feel more comfortable working with and hanging out with my male co-workers than the female ones. Perhaps I have more to talk to them about and what not since I have pretty much been a tom boy growing up. There is just TOO much drama with the ladies..its always she said this, and she did this...and blah blah bakwaas drama every single day that I don't have time to listen to. I do however understand the weirdness of working with desi males...for some reason its a little awkward, maybe cuz ive never really dealt with desis period at work.
hey DD! ive been busy with work :( its soooo busy here
Afro-sheen... i get along better with males in a work environment than with females (i think i mentioned that in my first post).. its just desi males.. maybe younger ones or ones who dont like to listen to desi females..
but ive realised, with this individual, its not just me... others know he doesnt listen either.. so phew im not the only know who is finds it frustrating..
One of the disadvantages of currently enforced gender diversity is that organizations are willing to hire and promote females who are not up to the same professional level as their male counterparts. On top of that, talking about gender equality on one hand, women want to be treated in a special way as they are princesses in additional to being an employee. I have mostly found that those women who bi$ch and moan about being treated unfairly are the ones who are not doing their jobs professionally enough. That being said, I have seen quiet a few women who are capable of working as good and even better than their male counterparts.
you look quite alien to me as far as working environment is concerned. Looks like you have never worked at any GOVT office. I am a private contractor and have worked with many Govt departments including army, DRs, PHDs, DMV etc and believe me females there are no less backbiters and short sighted. They play all politics that males play.
i dont think he wants to dismiss me or anything... and i dont believe at all that i dont do my job well (i could prob do it better by not caring about this guy though)
i just believe that he has issues with listening to people... like when he asks for a solution hoping he'll get the same answer he has in his head... and therefore when u dont give him that answer, he wont listen... he'll pretend he understands what ur saying... but in actual fact just waiting for the right keywords.... and i think thats wrong...
when ur working in a team, u need to listen to others.. u need to compromise...
Women are way more cattier in the work place. That's because we're more catty in general.
Sadzz, just do your work and do it to the best of your ability. And just put up with the idiots.
I don't know what it is, but I don't like dealing with desi male co-workers/fellow students. Most of them end up weirding me out. And that's saying a lot because I'm weird to begin with.
