After having a baby, how long have you waited before going back to work? I’ve heard of situations where 2 month old babies are being cared for by childminders while the mother works. Does it have any adverse effects on the child not being near it’s mother all the time? Do kids get used to it?
I’d like to get the opinions of any working mothers out there.
For starters Mums are ALWAYS at work - 25 hours / day and 8 days /week!
Some decide to take a break from this and go out to "work" and also get paid for it.
When anybody ask me if my wife works (we together decided she should stay home with the kids), I simply say she works more than you and me put together.
A Mum, specially of a small child, is NEVER off-duty.
Except in rare cases it is selfish to leave a new born / small child in someone else's care, specially if non-family (i.e. babysitter, nanny, etc.). There is no way a nanny can satisfactorily meet the wide range of needs of a baby / child.
Awam I understand what you’re saying, and I myself would prefer to stay at home with my kids (when I have them!!).
But you have to understand many women do work because the family needs the extra money.
Raising kids is not cheap, and up until a couple of years ago, university edcation in the UK was almost totally free, but now the government has almost completely removed grants forcing kids to take out loans and even that is not enough, as I know a few people who haven’t been able to go to university simply because they cannot afford it.
People may say that money is not the most important thing, but it is necessary to give your children a secure start in life.
Hence, you will find (moreso in asians) that women hate leaving they’re children to go out to work, especially young babies.
What age is reasonable to leave a child during the day with Child minders? 6mon
That's a difficult question.
I don't think any age is reasonable.
No child minder can compare with the care of a childs mother )or grandmother).
When you think about it Jamie Bulger may have still been alive, if his Venables/Thompsons parents had more discipline and control over them.
I don't want my kids bunking of school, not doing they're homework, knowing nothing about Islam or Pakistani culture, not knowing Urdu/Pashto, having no manners and (most importantly) not being scared of me and/or my husband.
No child minder (even if she was Pakistani) is going to make the effort a parent would.
But I guess if you really had to leave your child with a child minder, a "suitable" age would be when they've started full-time school, from the age of about 4/5, that way, she only has them from about 3.30/4 - 6.
cooldude whaz goin on mate??
Nice topic!! Keep it up!!
Good Luck!!
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yep 4 to 6 is about the best time to go back to work, but i know many cant afford to be away from work for this long, and plus what if they want more kids. There are no easy answers.
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for desi kids, the age would be about thirty. Otherwise, the kid will be completely traumatized.
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^^ hahahaha! yeap..... "mummi where's my paratha and chai?"
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This is THE age old debate. When are the kids ready to not needing a mother and is mother necessary or just highly recommended.
After reading, discussing and pondering over it, I have come to the conclusion that there is no silver bullet. To many factors go into bring up a child; its the child's free will how he or she reacts to those, including having mother around or not.
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Puberty.
Somehow, despite all beind said bout the motherhood, it seems its not that necessary afterall. We just need some extra cash.
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^^ agreed
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As I have said many times before, this choice between cash or staying home is available only to a small %age of women on this planet. The rest work because they need to feed the hungry mouths.
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lol solar right on...our kids are such babies
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