How many of you are working mums.
I work, look after my baby, the house, the husband etc.
last nite i broke down to my husband, as i was so exhausted from everything. I said to him that housewives have it very easy, but the women taht go out and work aswell as still carry out the housewive duties have it hard.
I am awake thru the nite as my daughter is teething, and then im up early in the morning for work, i come home, clean, cook, look after baby, put her to sleep, eat and drop. every day is like this.
Those of you who are working mums, how do you cope?
It's not at all easy !
I am a working mother plus a single parent too. I am coping with my situation due to the help of my mom. If it wasn't for her I don't know how I would have been able to manage.
My sincere advise to you is to seek help. Hire cleaning service or whatever is available in your country . Cook a few dishes over the weekend and freeze them and use them during the week. Ask your husband to help you out ! It is very very difficult to do job all day long and then come home just transform yourself into a house wife. You are a human being and needs rest.
If your baby is that young , can't you take a break from work for a few years and just look after your baby and home ? I know it's not easy to let go of your career I myself couldn't but see where it is taking you , your health , your sanity ? for how long can you put up with all this ?
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I have just gone back to work after 1.5year off. if i didnt go back now i wudnt have been able to get back into the market that easily. plus i HAVE to work at the mo cos my husband isnt working .
My husband does alot, he looks after our baby, and cleans up the house, but for some reason, theres still things to do, men can only do so much.
im not complaining, although it may seem like i am haha, but what got me goin was my sister in laws are housewives and they look at me like 'oh ur always at work and u dont care about ur home and ur daughter'. it gets me so angry because those girls have it easy, but they quick to judge girls like me.
I have just gone back to work after 1.5year off. if i didnt go back now i wudnt have been able to get back into the market that easily. plus i HAVE to work at the mo cos my husband isnt working .
My husband does alot, he looks after our baby, and cleans up the house, but for some reason, theres still things to do, men can only do so much.
im not complaining, although it may seem like i am haha, but what got me goin was my sister in laws are housewives and they look at me like 'oh ur always at work and u dont care about ur home and ur daughter'. it gets me so angry because those girls have it easy, but they quick to judge girls like me.
You are not living for them. You have your own life and your own set of problems to handle. I don't know how it feels when SILs says things like that but I can guarantee that they themselves would not be able to manage even a single with work & baby together. If they were that much capable they would be praising you and encouraging you. Listen from one ear and out from another.
It's nice that your husband helps you out. I think you are extremely stressed out. Can't u take 2-3 days off from work , just relax , spend time in your home with your baby and your husband. I believe that it will help you in getting rid of some stress.
How many of you are working mums.
I work, look after my baby, the house, the husband etc.
last nite i broke down to my husband, as i was so exhausted from everything. I said to him that housewives have it very easy, but the women taht go out and work aswell as still carry out the housewive duties have it hard.
I am awake thru the nite as my daughter is teething, and then im up early in the morning for work, i come home, clean, cook, look after baby, put her to sleep, eat and drop. every day is like this.
Those of you who are working mums, how do you cope?
your daughter sounds very young, i wonder who look after her when you are at work?
i know its difficult to work, look after house and kid at the same time, especially if the kid is too young and plus if the husband doesnt help that much.....better ask your husband to help you with house work so its easy for you
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i have a planned to take a few days off. inshAllah i get refreshed when i get back. i think im just having one of those times.
diamond321 ur right about what u said. i dont care about their opinion of me, cos i know me working is for my daughter, and my hubby supports me alot, suppose thats what they cant take more than anythin.
im very lucky that my hubby does everythin for me, it just got me thinkin that the girls that stay at home dont have a clue about working women
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I understand how difficult it is for you to work and look after the home.
you SIL's are being deliberately spiteful.
i am at home with my kids but my life is not easy either.
there are good points and bad points to being a working mom and a stay at home mom.
i'm not going to say which is better because each persons circumstances are different.
you need to focus on the positive in your life and know you have your husbands support.
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sorry didnt read your 2nd post...well forget about your SIL ..they are just jealous because they cant work......why your husband is not working?
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I am a working mother
I work, go home and clean home and take care of my kids and make food and make by babies nursery uniform ready and iron my husbands cloths and then make my girls sleep too
:)
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Tell SILs that you work coz their brother doesnt work. Plus say this, " I know i should be giving time to home and daughter but halaat aisay hein ke i have to work to make some money, to pay our bills. If his family can help us financially, may be i can think of quiting job."
After u say that highlighted line , they will never bug you again. 
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i hate complaining to hubby n stuff because ITS ABSOLUTELY of no use!!!!!!
trust me!!!!!
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You said your husband helps you out alot....
just a question are u a perfectionist and very in control of your home? like certain things have to be "done" no matter what? I woudl suggest....as lnog as the basic things, like cooking/food, baby, and general cleanliness are taken care of....let go of the little things that he doesnt do, and don't put too much pressure on yourself to deal with them either.
do u live with ur inlaws?
oh hun I know that's not easy at all. I work full time and have a 15 month old baby. I know it's not easy to work outside and come home exhausted and have to cook and clean. My hubby is a masters student so most of the time in the evenings he is gone so that means I am left by myself exhausted to take care of my daughter, have dinner, give her a bath and take care of whatever other chores for the night. What helps is that we put our daughter in bed around 10ish. Also, when i come home I change and play with my daughter for about half hour and then she is ready to calm down a little. I then let her play by keeping an eye and get my chores done and have dinner usually by myself when hubby isn't home. Lastly, I give her a bath and put her in bed after giving her bottle. As you can see this is a pretty hectic day.. but try to have days in between for yourself. Manis, pedicures, haircut, facials anything that will get you a little stress free.. Ideally if you have any family member that can watch your baby while you and hubby go out for a little while will help a lot also.