Working moms :(

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found this pretty accurate about my days and my feelings :frowning:

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You know you are a working mom when …

You always feel mediocre. A mediocre mom, a mediocre wife, a mediocre employee, a mediocre friend, daughter, housekeeper, you name it. You want to give 100 percent to everything in your life so you are left feeling like you always come up short.

You know you are a working mom when …
You wonder how you are ever going to get out the door. I cringe when I hear myself say “We’ve got to go” repeatedly each morning as my two-year-old son insists on putting on his own shoes, zipping and unzipping his jacket, getting himself into his car seat. I hate that I can’t relish in all that he is accomplishing because I always feel like I’m 15 minutes late in life.

You know you are a working mom when …
You spend the day wondering what your child is doing at day care while you sit at a desk and spend 8-plus hours with co-workers and only 4 awake hours with your kids who mean the most to you.

You know you are a working mom when …
You finally get your kids home and instead of sitting down and playing with them you have to prep and cook dinner.

You know you are a working mom when …
It’s 7 p.m. and you are finally taking your first bite of dinner and all of sudden your son who refused to eat his dinner wants to eat yours, on your lap, even though you made him the same thing.

You know you are a working mom when …
You know how much you’ve longed to be with your babies all day but you find yourself counting down the minutes to bedtime because there are still dishes in the sink and more work to be done.

You know you are a working mom when …
You rock your baby to sleep and all you want to do is rock there with him forever but again works calls, or bills have to be paid or laundry has to be done, and on the nights when it doesn’t, you know you still have to get up early in the morning.

You know you are a working mom when …
Your “Me time” is spent folding laundry, paying bills, etc.

You know you are a working mom when …
The weekend finally rolls around and instead of getting to relax, you have to clean house because Saturday and Sunday are your only “free” days to do this.

You know you are a working mom when …
You look at the clock and it’s 8 p.m. on Sunday and you wonder how two whole days with your babies came and went so fast and it’s already time for another workweek.

To all the other working moms out there, know you are not alone in your struggles. Know that you are doing the best you can. Know that your babies love you and feel loved. Know that what you do matters, even when you question it. Know that some day you will look back and be proud of all you accomplished. And finally, know that you were never mediocre, in fact, you are extraordinary.

http://www.rockfordparent.com/article/20140219/News/140219123

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Seems like a Single working mom…:chai:

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:cry: yes.. exactly the same thoughts… i always rate myself as a mediocre being a mom, an employee and all the other aspects of my life… u very nicely put everything in words rabia… thumbs up :+1:…

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nope! my husband helps outs a lot…and even that makes me sad. Because as a wife (desi wife,) i feel like i shuld be able to take care of all the house work and kids stuff without his help. When i am not able to do that…i feel even worse.

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So do you work out of necessity or choice?

If choice, may be you can opt for less stressful/easygoing job?

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necessity dear! My job isn’t stressful at all, but it is 8 hours a day. I leave the house at 6:20.am and don’t get home until 6pm. But the fact that i am not spending time with my LO, not giving the house enough time…bugs me. And apparently its a common thing with working moms or else there wouldn’t be a article about it.

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^ ditto! couldn’t have said it better :slight_smile:

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Don’t worry, I am not currently working but I am always in a hurry too with my kids and so are a lot of other women I know. Hugs, you are doing a great job, MA!

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^ thank you! but of course there are happy moments and days too :slight_smile:

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If you are a working mom because you HAVE to work to help support your family, you are showing your child how important it is to take responsibilities, care for others, work hard to get what you want, etc, and your children will respect you for it.

If you are a working mom because you are passionate about your career and enjoy it , you are showing your child how important it is to make your own goals and pursue something you love.

Of course it’s hard, but it’s not all sad faces. Be proud of who you are and your role in the family.

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Hun I am a stay at home mom & I gladly take any help I get from him whenever I get it. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Desis or not, husbands/fathers helping out at home makes for a stronger family structure & a much stronger father child/children relationships. Embrace it & never feel guilty about it, especially when you know that you try your best as well.

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^ Yeah, I agree. Rabia, you need to get rid of this “martyr” complex.

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I totally agree.
There is no need to be riddled with guilt if you’re a working mum.
And neither it does any harm if your husband help around the house and with the kids.
Im on maternity leave at the moment and will go back to full time job with crazy morning and night shifts in few months.
I will definitely expect and appreciate any help that I get from my husband.
Go easy on yourself ! X

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thank you guys!

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this is the perfect answer.

And, Your child will grow up and be super proud of you :slight_smile:

It is unfair to yourself for you to feel like you are only a partial mother/worker/wife/friend. You do the best you can and that’s what is important. Your child will not remember that you did not have the time to let him unzip/zip up his jacket, but he will remember that you helped put food on the table/put him through school//spent time with him/worked hard. No guilt necessary here :slight_smile:

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you need to quit thinking like a desi wife then…?