Re: Workaholic women?
Most women dont like my views , but having had a successful career, I realized in time that I dont want to be a man and a woman at the same time , all through my life.
I continued working after marriage for a while, but soon realized I am handling a very hectic job, plus keeping home and focusing on family .. both demanding equal efficiency. At which point I decided to prioritise home and family .. initially finance was an issue since we were too used to a certain lifestyle.. but then with time we learnt to manage our finances in a good way without letting our lifestyle getting affected.
In short, raising kids is a full time responsiblity. running a home is a highly challenging task . I dislike men who consider a working independent woman to be a degree higher then a housewife. I fail to understand why a woman is expected to be perfect in every aspect of life. While men can gain all the recognition in the world by just having a strong career.
An educated, sophisticated woman should be perfect material for marriage rather then gauging her on her career building and money making ability.
By nature and religion, Men are the breadwinners and they are given the status and responsibility of being the head of their family .. they are expected to help around the household but its never expected of them to manage both work and home to the same level of efficiency, similarly should be the case with women. But unfortunately women have been exploited to such a level that they dont feel their success in homemaking , rather they are seen to be put down on those skills and forced to consider themselves successful if they are being a man and a woman at the same time to equal levels of efficiency !!
Wanting to work doesn't mean you want to be the equivalent of a man. Running a home is a really challenging task, but it's also something not every woman will be upto. Men are never judged for their lack of skills in running a successful household but women always are regardless of whether they work or not. Everyone has their individual strengths and I think it should be ok if a woman feels her strength is in working and not neccessarily in running a home perfectly. Thats where the partnership in marriage comes in and you have to rely on both people to put in their share of the work. I think its great that you got the option to do both things and make a choice but a lot of women would be judged for making a different choice and thats where it becomes unfair.
I work because I love what I do, I'm good at it and because I think I bring value to my employers. I simply can't stand cooking, cleaning, taking care of a house etc. But I am always in awe of the women who are able to do so and do it so well. I've seen a lot of women take pride in the way they run their house from the way they decorate, to their cooking, to the discipline they raise their kids with, etc. I don't think anyone devalues what a difficult task running a household is and the contribution women make. Even if I wasn't working I don't think I would be up to the challenge on my own.
I just think people should play to their strengths regardless of gender and those strengths are not going to be the same for everyone.
and still are considered ‘himmat wali’ for working when they dont need to and cannot keep a balance.
